Oveating, closely followed by regret

LVS's post made me think of another aspect I worked with when I tried to beat my night eating. I have in the past called this "working past the regret stage", but I was pondering more about that.  I was thinking that when we make a choice to not steal, for example, we do that unconsciously or consciously here and there.  We don't steal because we are very aware and THINK AHEAD of time of the consequences.  In the case of making the choice to overeat, we know one consequence is regret, right? So that's what I mean when I say, I try to realize on the spot BEFORE i over eat that if I do this thing, i will feel regret, so I will choose NOT TO DO IT now!  Also, one beautiful image i work on when I am tempted to overeat at night meals: if I choose correctly, i will wake up the next day and feel so successful, and like a blank slate, ready for another day of fat-destruction!

I want to teach myself to get addicted to GOOD feeling and lose that shameful, regretful feeling. Come on, guys...let's LOSE those negative feelings by choosing right.  What other things can others add here to help those in need on this one????

 

 

This is good.. let's roll with that thought for a moment and try to follow it to some logical conclusion.... We don't steal... why?  We really don't even have to think about it... it's just.. not done.  It's not acceptable, it isn't moral.. what else? How can we program our brains to react the same way to food?  We all have lines... we draw the line somewhere with SOMETHING because it isn't moral.....it isn't what we consider acceptable behavior.   We don't consider overeating acceptable, yet we do it.  We would never poison another human being.. yet we poison ourselves?  Is this all about self worth? 

"Is this all about self worth?" I dunno, but it sure may a player. Do we, when we consistently make bad choices for our health, really feel we are not worth it? Or is it more about immediate gratification? I think fo rme, yes, I had poor self esteem in that time period, but I also very much admit I was spoiled and wanted to have what i wanted, too. Like a 2 year old! Related, and maybe not fair...is there a differnece between those of us who feel we are addicted when we did these choice series and those who say they were never addicted to food, and just justified the choices somehow (i.e., i'm okay being fat, my whole family is fat, etc)? I think not, in reality! Both groups consistently made poor choices, knowing the consequences.  As  we have said, the "consequences" of these choices do not readily appear sometimes - you don't get fat off ONE piece of a cake or even a half a cake - at least not right then.   the guilt-ridden one who feel addicted just have more immediate reactions to the choices, i think.

You have really hit the nail on the head.  I got down to 165.5, then had a rough month after my Dad passed away, no excuse, he was so proud of my weight loss down from 300.  But I chose to eat poorly and had several binges on peanut butter sandwiches, dove bars, alcohol- too much at home, all calories more than what I had planned to eat for the day.  I have a doctor's appointment next Friday.  I had hit 175, today at 169.8 thank goodness.  But my hard days are when I am off work, on Fri, Sat and Sun.  We have a family function Sat, so I am going to try to work harder so I might be able to eat a bit of something different.  I will ride my new pink cruiser Sat and Sun and might repaint my back patio, gotta clean it first, and that will burn some calories.  But I have yet to show a gain at the doctor's and my plastics are scheduled for April 24, I sure don't wanna show her a gain at my preop visit.  And you know, it sure doesn't help when people say, you have done so good, go ahead.  I sat in report this morning with a big bag of McDonald's biscuits and sausage blowing off it's smell at me.  I just try to get away from the food as fast as I can, and not bring the "exceptional" foods into the house.  Sometimes the spouse likes that stuff, so I have to keep busy.  I too try to think, ok, this is the old way of thinking to eat such and such.  Are you really hungry, or are you just trying to work out something with the food.  Doesn't always work, but, keeping on going will.   Patty