I want to eat the pain away

"I'm praying... gonna pray right now." Laylah... this is just the thing that has seen me through some very rough times.  I think you realize that compulsive overeating is a sin of the flesh.. and the flesh is weak, but EVERYTHING can be overcome through Christ.  It's only when we admit our weakness that He can become strong in us.  Try to imagine packing up that desire to overeat in a big box and lay it at the feet of Jesus.  We can't handle these things on our own, but He sure can.  Give it over to Him, darlin'.

I found out a long time ago that I had this big hole in me that I was trying to fill .. with food, with drugs, with whatever other detrimental behavior in which I could engage... only to finally realize it was just a perfect God sized hole that only He could fill.  Slowly but surely, a lot of those desires left me.  I'm still working on a few.. but not alone.  :)

I'm not a "fanatic" by the way..   I was just impressed by your instinct to pray through this rough time.

Stick around, kiddo.  We all have issues.. different issues.. some are post op... and most are doing it on their own, and I for one am learning a lot by hanging around here.  In learning about others, I learn an awful lot about myself.. and I hope you have the same experience!

Be Blessed, sweetie!

Lori0

 

First of all I have to say I LOVE your name!  I wanted to name one of my daughters that but my husband at the time couldn't pronounce it..LOL.  I thought that was sort of amusing! hehe  I'm sorry you've had such a hard time with the band.  I wish you luck that you get it figured out soon! This board has a lot of great people on it , and it's actually pretty active.  There are lots of us on WW,  I just started Core the other day.  Flex just wasn't for me. 
Welcome! 

Hi Laylah!!!!  Now, don;t freak out, we have all been there, some of us are still there. For me, I am 50 years old, have struggled with major binging most of my adult life.  I can proudly say that is not the big issue any more, however i know enough that it is never completely cured.  And that's okay.   Simply stated, i EXPECT to not do right  from time to time and try to learn a little more about why I did it and what can I do differently to avoid it next time.  Your questions: 1.  I just won't give my feelings the power over my body still what do I do?  See sentence above - expect that you will blow it.  One time does not negate the entire day. So, get back on track the very next meal.  While you're new at this, don't try to fix it all, lets say you had a huge fast food lunch - dont' eat only a bowl of veggies for supper.  Just eat supper like normal.  Maybe you won't want as much, but eat balanced whenever you can. By balanced I mean, add in veggies, fruit, lowfat dairy, good grains, lean meat, good fats.  2.  How do I not eat  on my emotions, how do I not fill the voids with food?  Plan out OTHER STUFF to do! When I was battling at my worst, I began to back up the train and try to recognize the first signs of a binge.  For me, I would feel anger (usually more like feeling like awwwf*ck it, why do I try anyway). I know, i am a sick pup..so in my case, my "red flag" was the beginning of feeling angry. Over time, and it took a LONG time...I would grab ahold of myself and just switch gears. Recently we all worked on a list of "other things to do than eat."  i will see if I can find it and get in in here. Use it - print it out!  I will add a very important point here: Every day, no matter what you are doing, have your BALANCED food planned out to last morsel.  I now believe: binging is really the outcome of having no other plans in place! This way, YOU will know what YOU are going to eat when everybody at the office is pinching off pieces of giant cookies in the breakroom.  My promise to you:  when you really eat balanced over your day in the right portions, you will not feel as many urges to binge.  You will not because you will be giving your body what it cries for.  THAT is why peeps binge - we try to get by on one itty bitty yogurt for breakfast, then wonder why we go ape**** at lunch! In the beginning, don't try to eat low cal - go for balance, then winnow out to less calories.  Stick around!

Hi there!  It's getting late and I have to hit the hay but wanted to drop by and welcome you to the forum! I'm doing WW flex and absolutely LOVE it!  Though I've not been doing super well the last few months- I am still loosing- just at a much slower pace :)  I need to get my rear in gear. I'm so sorry to hear you have had suck troubles with the band. What a disappointment for you :( Hang in there... we're all here for each other. Keep hangin out with us!

I sure do understand the knee thing.  I had a fall at age 12 and they removed the cartilage to my left knee where the bones grinded for the next 34 years.  7 years ago I had a total knee replacement at 300 pounds!  You can read my bio, but I am doing diet and exercise, with the exercise being key.  I belong to a gym with a pool and I do resistance exercises and arm and leg exercises in the water 5 x per week.  I don't like to sweat! Of course I have reduced my intake and Weigh****chers is a great way to do this.   When I get upset and think that I need that food... whatever your favorite is... I am training myself to think "this is the old way I thought".  Calm down, take a deep breath, think about another way to handle this.  Food is not the answer.   This is different from just having some junk food in front of you and eating just cause it is there. That is another whole mind set.  Here I think of the last time I ate, am I really hungry, can I make another choice with what I have brought with me to work, and do I really want to see those numbers go up? I am down 135 pounds and 65.5 inches in about 14 months. My son who is a competitive cyclist has enouraged me on and on.  He was in the Army 5 years, just finished college and has started a "round the world" bike tour.  www.fattiretour.org  and he is something else.  What are you eating Mom?  He even gave me his www.Texas4000.com size small T shirt from when he rode from Austin Texas to Anchorage Alaska in 2006.   Just keep on.  Take one hour at a time, set small goals.  My initial goal was 170, I have now revised it to 159, and am having plastics, TT and BL on April 24.  Never ever thought I could, but my dear Dad passed on Jan 19 and left me enough to do this.  So don't stop, you look a bunch younger than me (53), and life is a whole lot easier with a whole lot less on you.  Doesn't matter how you do it.... gotta love it, I work at a Bariatric Surgery Hospital, and I tell this to my patients every day.  We all start somewhere, and all wanna get healthier. Take care. Patty

Many thanks Patty.  You look great and what an inpiration your son is!  When I have more time (I'm at work) I will read your bio. Have a wonderful Friday and weekend. Laylah