saaay, what does your dh/dw think about all of US?

my DH thinks I live in a fantasy world...wonders what the hell we all talk about so much! Of course, HE plays on pogo for hours when it is HIS turn, but that's different....he chats with them when he can concentrate while playing.

Great question. It's one I never actually asked the wife. We never really talked about how she felt about the board.  So I asked her and this is what she said: "I think it's a great support group. They are people *****ally understand who you are. They can relate to you in ways that I sometimes can't. I learn a lot from them because you talk about it. It's a big part of your life. Sometimes it is annoying when I'm ready to go and you want to sit on here and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk... Hehehehe"

Jon says "what message board"  "what site"  "what are you talking about:" ... for more than six months now.

I just asked him and he said...

I can see it makes you happy, I'm pretty relaxed about it.

 

Em

My hubby is a bit insecure, so he says "you not talking to any guys on there are you".  I understand his worry a little bit.  We are surrounded by people that use the computer for that reason.  I let him watch over my shoulder and showed him that my friends list is all females so he's ok. 

Oh yeah, there has been sum discussion about THAT! My DH is on the jealous side, but we have been together for 14 years now, and he knows what type of person i am. Um, I was married to the world biggest butthole and did not cheat on HIM, why in God's name woudl i consider doing it to Mr. Right???? My DH teased me (but I knew it was on the square) once or twice and kind of hovers over me once in a while while I post to make sure I am not trading phone numbers with men, i am sure!  I just ignore him. I bascially try to stick with posting things that I would not care if it made the front page of the newspaper, so he can knock himself out reading this. The media does nto help this, of course. My personal take on that type of behavior...a cheater will find a way to cheat, computer, no computer!

Interesting question.... Actually, I haven't even mentioned my interest in the WLS to begin with....have two friends going through preparations for it but haven't expressed my interest.  We have kind of a unique situation....have an office where we each have our own desks back to back with computers, so don't pay much attention to what the other is doing on the computer.  Part of my part time job is related to the computer so he doesn't question if I'm on it a lot. Should probably tell him why all of a sudden I'm really watching what I'm eating and why I'm losing again....should give you guys some of the credit!  Being on these boards has really motivated me.  He has noticed we're eating differently, although I still make him his sweets and he loves his bread.  Guess we'll have a discussion.

How long have you bene considering wls? What's funny is when I was looking into it, it was my dh who encouraged me to give it a serious look - he had been living with me, saw how hard I worked at getting thinner only to GAIN.  He was actually kind of concerned and just helped me feel validated. It was scary to see the scale move up when you feel like you do lots of things right.  That is the other part of how he feels about this board, i suspect anyway. He might think I am on the compulsive side.  But, i  would counter, hell yeah, don't I get that way about most things????

It has always been in the back of my mind for years "as a last resort".  However I am basically chicken (need a total knee replacement and not having that done either).  I have made the initial appt. for the informational meeting with the most popular bariatric surgeon here but couldn't get in til the end of April, so decided to see what I can do between now and then on my own.  I'm almost sure I won't go through with it.  I know the co-morbidities that I have (hypertension, high cholesterol, osteoarthritis) are also a threat to my longevity but very afraid of blood clots with surgery.  I could never have the bypass done (don't like the malabsorption issues) and the lap band would probably be my choice, but even after I had that done I would still have to be watching my diet and exercising so I figure...why put myself through it in the first place? I'm a nurse...a little knowledge is a dangerous thing....so I guess know how many things can go wrong.  I love all the support everyone provides here and it's very informative to listen to everyone's experiences and how their different bodies handle the food.  Never thought of myself as being insulin resistant before (nurses don't pretend to know everything) and gonna check that out with my primary.  Haven't been in the clinical aspect of nursing in years, so learning a lot and researching as I go. Bill and I have only been together 2 years and he would support me whatever I chose and loves me the way I am too.  I just really haven't discussed WLS with anyone.  Just glad I found this forum. Being informed is empowering!!

Hey Neecee! I started on the OH board back on June, 2005.  At the time my SO called it "The Fat Board".  So even if I am on the non-ops board or the plastic surgery board he still says to me "are you catching up with the fat board" when I log on. I don't have nearly as much time as I had in the past so mostly I lurk.  By the time I get here the topic has been exhausted so chiming in would only bore people. I met my SO online over five years ago.  We just celebrated our five year "anniversary" of meeting face to face which was on February 13.  He isn't jealous at all.  Course, he plays WoW for HOURS on end and somehow thinks I am going to agree to him going to Paris for the new launch of WoW -- the name of which I have no idea.  I let him live with his fantasies!!! LOL