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Awe I love you guys! Thank you so much for cheering me on...I needed that more than you know. Everyday seems to get a little easier. My best friend and I talk about moving in together but she has 5 month old twins that she always has her mother take care of and I'm afraid if we move in together I'll become babysitter and don't get me wrong...I love having them over and I love being around them but I can't be a step in mommy like her mother does. Everynight night and every weekend when her mom gets home she says mom will you watch them for like 30 minutes and 3 hours later she comes home...I'm worried about that. I'll have to do some looking about the rooms for rent thats for the idea!!!

I highly recommend a book "The Millionaire Next Door" Look at a used book store or the library - won't taek long to read! Yes, it's about money, but it is about spiritual connections with money, too.  People who ain't right about money are usually lost souls. Every young person should read it before marriage. If any given person is not on the same financial page as you are - RUN!  Losers at finance belong together.  One person would be paddlng in a big unhappy circle! I was the paddler for almost 18 years - lucky to get out with my teeth.

Stacy, I hope you do take a moment to answer this inside yourself... Repeated: If he says " it'll probably be the biggest mistake of you life because he can't give youwhat I want (including a child.)", why are you ignoring that, choosing what you don't want over what you do? 

Hey Stacy, Moving out is a good step.  Focusing on yourself is even better.  In the end no one is there to for you other than yourself, so you need to take care of you first.   Living with your Mom will be rough but I think you can do it.  It took me a looooong time, but I managed to find certain foods forbidden and you can too.  Tell yourself that you're not allowed to have ice cream in the house; that you can only have it if you go out for it.  That way, chances are you won't want to go out, and you will pass on the ice cream crave.   Focus on you, girl. You you you.

Stacy,  Wow I am sure you are under a great deal of stress right now. It was SOO smart of you to not be getting married and to move out and to think about YOU!! It should be about you too and not just him. Seems he is telling you that he isn't going to be able to give you what you want..not the end of the world..Look in the mirror..you are a very beautiful person and maybe he isn't the right one for you and the right one just hasn't come along yet. You will find that right guy that is able to give you what you want and you shouldn't settle for anything less.  Hang in there with the whole mom situation. Take a deep breath and I am sure doors will start opening up for you and you will see where you are suppose to be. Keep your head up and as you know we are all here for you..