Nobody cared

kitties4
on 1/27/08 9:53 am - Cleveland, OH
I went to my "usual" Sunday night OA meeting off of Detroit from 7:00 to 8:00, and I shared that I wasn't abstinent, and that I was struggling.  Nobody came up to me after the meeting to help me, or share with me.  All they did was break into their clickish groups and talk with each other.  I put on my coat and left, and nobody noticed.  I have been trying to fit into this OA meeting for some time, but I just don't feel like I fit in.  I'll need to find another meeting to go to, one where I feel like somebody there cares about me. Breakfast 4 buckwheat pancakes with margarine and light syrup 1/2 can cornbeef hash with two poached eggs 1 cup 2% milk 3/4 cup prune juice 1 cup hazelnut coffee 20 oz. water After church snack Several cookies 1 cup coffee Lunch (from Wendy's) Bacon cheeseburger Small french fries Small chili Small vanilla Frosty Mid afternoon snack (from client) 1 Rice Krispies Treat Dinner Rotisserie chicken leg & wing with skin 1 cup mashed potatoes with margarine 1 can New England clam chowder 1/2 can light fruit ****tail 1-1/2 cups 2% milk Evening Snack 2 chocolate graham crackers Denise Phares/kitties4
Neecee O.
on 1/27/08 10:00 am - CA
Awww, kitties...you got it...keep looking. I had two OA groups that were "my peeps"; I went to the B list when my schedule forced that. It is the one thing that is a downside, many towns are small, and you only get one chance to get a great group together.  If this group is one of your only choices, just go sit at the edge of those cliques and listen. I myself forget to this day one of the most basic things about OA (and technically any group, including this one on our Non-ops Board):  Principles before Personalities! You are there for the principles, not the personalities.
Gael T.
on 1/27/08 1:54 pm - CA
That is TOO sad Kitties!  Geeezzz...Hey, if it makes ya feel any better, I can't even get an email answered back from OA in my area!  Hmmm, makes me wonder about the meetings! lol...  I hope you can find another OA to go to.  I know the frustration, its like, WE are asking for help, could ya help???


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mzclaus
on 1/27/08 11:34 pm - Lafayette, LA
Hey, Denise. Sorry to hear of your insensitive group.   Do you think YOU could start your own group?  It might be worth looking into. Or maybe you could bring up the situation in your present group.  They probably don't realize how clickish they are.  Best of luck! Bren
Christa :]
on 1/27/08 11:56 pm - MI
VSG on 03/13/12
Oh wow. Seriously people are so lame with their cliques and what not. You drive to Michigan for OA? And you know Brenda has a good idea!!!! Start your own!!!! :)



 





 

    
ChunkyMama
on 1/28/08 2:30 am - AK
Ick! That's horrible. What kind of support group is that!?  That's sad... wonder how many other people have gone there- tried to reach out- and had NO support :( Horrible :( Keep coming here.... we are listening. (((((hugs)))))
HollyRachel
on 1/28/08 3:04 am

I just hate that.  Just keep looking, you'll find one that you'll like.  I hate how people act like that.  I have noticed they do this even in the WW meetings here in my town.  Good luck on finding one! 

((((HUGS))))) 


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