Fit to Strip

OH.. that's so cute!   Yea.. the drive comes back.. (boy do I know it)          When I hit goal, I'm having an all out boinkfest!  :-x   For now there are cold showers and wood cutting.

well you know there's a dessert that kills desire...wedding cake? LOL  I think being married just is a petrie dish for being "taken for granted".  In fact, perhaps the vows should read, for better, worse, or granted.   When sex is not an issue in a marriage, it represents 20% of the marriage.  When it is a problem, it represents 98% of the marriage. It's whatever is acceptable to both parties.

Having been married 2x, I can say, sex is either a priority or not.  Me and the current best DH I will ever score, we are into quality, not quantity these days. Being fat does not help me feel good about sexy time, but once I go over that wall, it's all good. I kind of lose all perspective, i become goal oriented!

 

 

Quite true!!  I'm proud to say that despite my decreased libido we still have an active sex life. I know how important it is to have that intimate communion. So even when I'm not in the mood I will do the deed. Not every time..but often enough.. otherwise I'd be easy! :P  I usually find that I really did want it once I begin but for whatever reason I rarely feel inclined to initiate the act.  We have a balanced sex life. I have a wonderful marriage.  We have a very open line of communication and there isn't a thing we can't talk about including decreased sex drive. Hell we can even talk about a loss of attraction for the other without getting all depressed and upset about it. It's a fact of life and if you can't talk about it then you'll never get through it.  I used to think I'd never get married..that there wasn't anyone out there for me because I was fat..who'd want a fat guy.  I was wrong.. Very wrong.  Despite all of that I do still sometimes take my marriage for granted. And it's when I start doing so that things become rocky in our relationship.  As time passes it's becoming easier and easier to detect the root cause of our frustrations.  The bumpy roads are getting shorter and smoother. My marriage seems to be evolving into something much more solid and concrete. The closer I seem to be getting to understanding myself and conquering my vices the more things fall into place everywhere in life.

"When sex is not an issue in a marriage, it represents 20% of the marriage.  When it is a problem, it represents 98% of the marriage." That's the most succinct way I've ever heard it put.  ::shaking head::  ....  very true.