Mom's Watching

oh but why be so politically correct?

All people want to help each other and give in their two cents as of what worked for them.  They all swear it works and is the only way of eating healthy or whatever their story is.  What one seems to forget is people lead different lives, different ways of eating, they like different things, need different things.  Not only that, but not one eating plan works for all!  Other wise just like Beth mentioned the other day to me, we would never have any obese people if it was that easy!  All we can do is give each other our input on what works for us and just literally give support on whatever they choose what works best for them.  I doubt she meant any harm talking about the pill to you.  She just knows it worked for her sister.  Or your aunt just thought maybe that article in the magazine was worth a shot just for you to look at.  Everyones body is different, and every one has different emotional needs.  They just have to figure out the combination of tools to make it work for them.  Every way is the right way, just works on people differently.  And people just want to help in any kind of way, even if it is annoying at times.  :) 

Ah, Holly. you may have missed the debacle, but the whole issue with "me" here is that I do think there is one way -- eat healthy and exercise.  I also believe, based on research, that one way in particular does best for obese people --limited/no starches.  Most diet plans are bunk and fail people for a reason. But that wasn't PC of me to say.  I think when we say there are a variety of things that work, well, sure a lot "work" but how effectively in the long run. Anyway, no my aunt didn't mean well.  She didn't intend ill will either, but that kind of maneuver is very passive aggressive and so contradictory to when a person's succeeding with the healthiest choices to offer the worst possible choice.  It's like telling a child who got an A on a test how to study for a test....  Or sabotauging a person's intake. Not nice at all.

Overall, I try not fault the good intentions of people who are trying to help rather than sabotage.  It really annoys the crap out of me if someone asks me if I really need something.  Don't you think I thought about it?  After all, I'm the one trying to lose weight.  Hello?!?  LOL.  I guess I just have experience sabotage in the past and I'm at enough of a distance to see the positives, but I do admit it annoys me when people try to keep tabs on me.  Ultimately, it doesn't matter what anyone else says to us or about us.  The only person who can really control what goes in is us.

Usually the person keeping tabs on someone else needs to keep tabs on themselves. My mother is overweight.  While visiting her sister in Florida for a few days and while out to dinner, the sister's new hubby (we do not like--he's sketchy) told my mom she didn't need the butter for her roll.  He is at least 60lbs overweight himself, but considers himself fit as a fiddle.

I dont tell anyone I dont have to because they all turn into the food police on me. My plan is pretty flexible and allows me to eat what I want.  It is not unusual for me to save up all day eating no starches at all and keeping calories very low because I want to have cake that night. I HATE it when people then say things like "should you really be eating cake?"  wouldnt you rather have half a slice? No dammit.  I ate 570 calories before dinner and NO carbs just so that I could enjoy that wole piece of cake!  LOL

The only people who know are the people who live in the same house as me.  I didn't tell anyone else who I come into contact with on a regular basis.  Oh, I also do the same thing.  Today I'm keeping it low through the day so I can go have a cheeseburger.  And if anyone has anything to say about it, I'll tell them to stuff a sock in it!

That's funny... you did the opposite of what I did this time. Usually I tell anyone... this time was just ME. Didn't even tell dh for like a week :)  NOW I tell him as I loose... or stay the same... I only tell YOU GUYS if I GAIN I don;t want ANYONE telling me ANYTHING about what I eat :) Because there are those times where I'm really low on my points etc., and I CHOOSE to eat something I normally would not eat.... and THAT would tick me off cause I feel I can make my own decisions and who are THEY to tell me LOL But, if it were MY OWN MOM.... I'd tell her and I'd accept what she had to say :)   I like that you really don;t come back with an answer but you turn the question on HER... then SHE can answer and no WHY :)

Sometimes I wonder if I should have mentioned this all to my Dad but overall I know deep down I need/want to be "watched" and will probably appreciate it in the long run. The thing about "Did you walk today?" is pretty funny though. I think she means well. MERRY CHRISTMAS BRENDA!

I have to get cracking this morning, but wanted to say it depends on how someone says it to me.  Certain people can actually say to me (and still be alive), wow, you've gained weight.  Others,  NFW.  It is kind of a subject, exactly like money handling that should be more open for discussion. I am blown away by lots of PCP's who never bring up weight. Maybe they have learned it is a sore subject. But I go back to...should it be?