Mom's Watching

For whatever reason, normally when I go on a diet I don't say anything to my mother.  I always think she doesn't understand because she's thin and never been on a diet in her life!  This time I did though.  I have been keeping her abreast of my progress.  If I don't say anything to her about how I'm doing she will ask me.  Have you lost anymore weight?  Did you walk today?  If I say I haven't lost anymore weight, she wants to know why not.  I tell her the truth, which is usually because I haven't been following my diet close enough.  Even if I wanted to lie, my husband would tell her the truth.  He doesn't say anything to me no matter what I eat.  Her response, why have you been doing that?  Do you want to gain your weight back?  My response, no mom I'm going to get back on my game.  She will even ask me if I walked at lunch when it's freakin cold as hell outside.  So I ask her, did you walk today mom?  No, too cold.  Well me neither.   On the other hand my step son hates when I'm doing well.  I guess he gets more junk when I'm not.  I guess you can't make everyone happy.  My mother and I get along well, so I guess it's a good thing she's keeping on my butt.  Somebody has to do it.  Lord knows whatever works, I'm game.   I hope everyone on this board has a GREAT CHRISTMAS!!    Brenda

She's trying to be involved which sounds really great to me!  So many people have family that get terrified of loved ones losing weight and end up trying to sabotage.  The fear of change causes people to do crazy things and often mean things.  She may be a little overbearing sometimes but it sounds like you've got some support there and it is really nice to have that.  Support can keep you going sometimes when you don't have the motivation to, it can be your accountability. Oh, Merry Christmas to you too!  And Merry Christmas to everyone else here.

You guys are just too nice.  I totally can't stand support right in front of me.  Lol, I know that sounds weird, but I don't like the support the majority of the time.  I guess I feel deceived??  I'm not sure, tell ya the truth.  But I do know now I feel like a total *****ha  Oh well I really don't care, it just doesn't work for me.  I want support, but I haven't found the "right " support yet.  My husband reminds me once in a while, "don't eat that', or "haven't you had enough, aren't you done with your points".  To me it just aggravates me soooo bad that I just end up yelling at him.  He could be wrong or right, doesn't matter.  I guess I've never been one to be told what to do, and that's what it feels like to me.   I feel bad for my dh, but wow that annoys me!  I guess it feels more like a lecture maybe, and I don't do lectures well.  For the most part I'm a strong woman so it just doesn't fly someone reminding me of things that I already know.  I know...I'm awful in that aspect.

If it works for you great!  Lol, tell the world if it works.    More behind ya the better! 

I second that Holly. I am exactly the same way. I can not stand it when someone asks me "Well why didn't you lose any weight?" Or what did you eat today?" You know. It drives me up the wall. Now if they ask how much I have lost I can answer that...I am fine with that.  More power to ya Brenda!!! Keep it up!

I like support if it helps keep me on track or gets me back on track.  Not to say it doesn't aggravate me at the same time.  If it helps with my weight loss then it's worth it in the long run.  If someone other than my mom or my husband,  like my MIL it would plain **** me off.  She is always talking about someones weight and it drives me insane.  She doesn't say crap to me though, which is a good thing.  I don't like to get into it with older people and especially not my husband's mother, but if it were to happen to many times I would probably end up being short with her.   I must say when I hear here talking about someones weight I feel so much like saying, WHY DON'T YOU MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!  I just hold my tongue though.  My husband says do like I do, just ignore her.  Unfortunately for him, I'm not as nice as he is.  Brenda

My experience is people can never do right by us.  We're mad if they talk too much about it, follow our routines too closely, or if they ignore it altogether.  Poor people, LOL. Oh, reminds me of something that happened Sunday.  Barry (female) is a size 2, loudmouth redhead at the gym who befriended me her first day but I find TERRIBLY annoying.  Anyway, she asked how I'm doing, shared her history with me whi*****ludes eating disorders, than decided to offer advice as to what works.  Yet, what I'm doing is working and is all about (gasp) living healthy!  Why do people have the need to tell you about other methods when you're now on track????

Hmm....

Well, what I mean is, telling you about unhealthy means.  She wanted to talk about a pill her sister takes.  Now, I won't knock your choice--you already know I don't think a pill is necessary.  But what I meant is when you're doing well, it's like they now need to tell you how to do it and yet you're already doing it.

Everytime I've ever dieted, my aunt would notice I'd lost 20 lbs and come at me with a fad diet she tore out of a magazine....

Ok - I just need to say that I think it is a RIOT that you dont like it when people give you advice and suggest that their might be a better way.  A RIOT..... LOL

When their way is known to be ineffective and not lasting and based on junk concepts?  Yeah, I really don't like to hear that. Worse, I don't like that when I AM SUCCEEDING they offer direction that would actually be ineffective. A riot.  Well, I won't say what I really think....