My Husband.....

I am writing in here to talk about my husband.  He is having difficulties with his appetite.  He can not seem to stop eating even when he is full.  His portions are out of control and his health is going with it.  The problem is that he is tired of talking to doctors who only say "eat healthier" or "eat smaller portions"......  He knows that.  he's tried that.  So, I want him to talk to my nutritionist and doctor (who I am seeing for my LapBand) but he flat out refuses.  He asked me tonight if I know of any supplements that curb appetite.  I don't know because everything I've tried didn't work for me - hence my choice for LapBand.  Do any of you know something that might help?  He just said tonight he is so tired of not feeling well and knows his blood pressure is skyrocketing.  My frustration is that he won't get medications, he won't try any other doctors, he refuses surgery, what can I do....what can I say? Thanks for listening and if you have any ideas.   Cristina

I feel for you, I truly do.  A lot of people here might have more suggestions than I have.  But from what I've read you can't make up his mind if he doesn't wants help, HE has to be the one that does it, and he needs to find the will to do it.    He has to come into terms that he's an addict and get some help.  Would he go to OA meetings, or WW meetings?  I assume not since he doesn't want to see a doctor or nutritionist.  Would he be willing to do an online weigh****chers so he doesn't have to go anywhere?  You could actually do it right along with him so then he won't feel like he's all alone on it.  Even though you have the lap band you still need to learn how to eat correctly anyways. 

This is a tough one, but from my experience with over weight adult family members I personally don't think you can change them, they have to do it theirself.  You can only "guide" them to the best you can do. 

How about doing Core on Weigh****chers without him even knowing it.  I know that's sort of tricky and it might not even work.  But if you had only the core foods available, then maybe he would stop eating sooner, thus weight loss.   THey are denser foods so you get full faster.  I'm not sure if it would work for  you, but what do you have to lose!  It's worth a shot.

Good luck, I feel for ya!

Like my advice to Maggie, I really advise cutting sugar and starches, if just for a brief while to get his appetite under control.... It really has worked for me.  I'm full, I don't snack, I'm just not interested in sugar or starches.