Stupid things people say

So, yesterday in the gym I saw a friend I haven't seen in a month or two.  We'd started about the same time.  At 220lbs, she hasn't lost anything (is pretty inconsistent with her workouts).  So, she saw me doing cardio and as I walked by and said hi, she commented on the changes.  But instead of wow, you look amazing, she said, "I looked over and thought wow, you've got a neck!" WHAT?  WTF! I was never someone who had a wide neck or big chins, though certainly some weight was there.  My neck has gone down aboug .75 inch, but geez, that's really not where my fat was!   Anyway, it's not like it got to me and hurt, it was more about what she had to say.  It's like people struggle with what and how to comment.  I was suprised that at Thanksgiving no family made a comment (yet they did 5 years ago when I lost about the same on another diet and my current changes are more dramatic due to the exercise level).  Yet I contrast that with seeing another friend at the gym (she works for the corporation) who after several months of not seein gme was shocked, commenting like another did how it looks like I lost 50 lbs.  It's like some people can see it, some can't.  Very strange indeed.  But then again, I didn't really see it until recently....Now I see how dramatic it is.

"You've got a neck"??  That's so lame.  You should have told her "You've got no couth!".

What the hell is couth? ha

Couth is kind of like Manners. You have no manners or you have no couth. No respect, dont think before you speak...ya know?

It was probably the first thing she saw on you and acted on it.  I sort of chuckled because I personally have no neck.  :)  I would of cracked up if someone told me that.  But yes, it is weird how one perceives others when others see something totally different.  Its sort of like when you look at a kid and see who they look like.  Half will say their mom, half thier dad.  She must of looked at your neck more than you realized.haha  Sort of weird if you think about it.hehe

I wrote it off because she's European (culture difference) and a little dare I say lower class, but dang, some people open mouth, insert foot! I mean, come on.  My ass is where the fat's at.  Junk in my trunk, ya know.  But neck?  For crying out loud. I get a lot of comments, good and stupid, but most people just do the va va va voom shape with their hand, you know, the hourglass.  I describe my middle as whittled.  But my neck?  Never crossed my mind.