Mind over matter?

I have long anticipated a healthy 2lbs a week.  After all, anything above that is jus****er weight or worse if your intake is poor, lost muscle.  But today my trainer suggested that my goal for Valentine's Day (275) will quickly be surpassed.  I'm waiting to here the reason from him, but he seems to think that it will start flying--if I believe it. Now, I've been grateful for every week, for every lb (2-3 seems consistent).  But what he thinks could happen is much more than that.    Yes, we have stepped up our program (he suggested I could handle something he does with young athletes--wow!), but because of work, I'm getting  15-30 minutes less exercise every day right now (which worried me, but it is necessary with my schedule, and made up either with city walking or really long, intense weekend workout sessions. But mostly we talked about "optimism".   So, do you really think if we let ourselves believe it, it will happen? He's right about one part, how "mental" this is.  The number he suggested I may hit is what I weighed in grad school (age 23).  I was such a kid.   Exciting if it happens....

i think you have to at least have faith that you are making the right decisions. if you don't go into this journey with the attitude that you CAN do it, no matter how slow or quickly, then the mental side of it will drag you down quickly. i said this in another post. i believe it is the emotional side  that causes us to slip.  i can't tell you how many times in the past i've let that lil voice inside my head tell me that i should just go ahead and give up. i've refused to listen to that voice this time. even tho i've been stuck in a rutt for a month, i ain't quittin!  

Sorry about your rut.  Try to focus on your positives instead of your fears, I guess.  For me, I'm motivated most days because my changes are now so drastic, I wouldn't want anything I had before, I just want more of what I'm getting.

Sure, old habits might be nice, and there will be a time I can handle them, just not now...and I won't let anything get in the way.

have guys you read The Secret? Nothing new there, mind over matter, fer real. I like the format of that particular book. I've been guilty of self-limiting, espcially with finances.  I have a deep basic belief that enough is fine with me, and perhaps my health (read here weight) issues is the same. I may be settling for what I have. Now, what is hard is,  i am such a wanna be jock, for example. I played softball for many years - and never got much better. I learned more, of course, but I will never be more than merely average at it.  I guess what I am trying to say is, a high goal is wonderful, but where is the Determination of what is Reasonable?   

I watched the movie.  It countered my religious beliefs, so much of it was unpalatable to me.  IMO, nothing comes by merely thinking it will come (as the book suggests).  But by believing-->and acting, I believe it can come.  I just don't believe effort is all it takes; who said luck is when timing and preparation meet?  I believe some things come by luck.  Too many people out there suck at what they do, but get further than those who are great at what they do.  But I'm pretty rational. So, I'm trying to open myself to the number he thinks could happen.  But I went through such rough time with depression as we kept trying to figure out what would work for me dietwise. I'm debating about putting the scale away (like, I dunno--the basement!) and just keeping at what I'm doing and not paying attention to "it" other than my changes--LOL, something he's asked me to do all along!  Oh if he ever read this. Poor boy, I put him through hell.

The movie was too hippie dippie for me, kind of crackhead style hippie to boot. The book speaks more to details. Of course, the big picture is more complicated than just thinking it will come...timing and preparation come when you have dialed into the right channel.  If you believe, you, consciously and unconsciously put yourself in the situations to make it happen. If you repel the goal, you do put out stinkbomb vibes that do block the dream. By all means, open yourself. As you get closer, you will be the one to decide if the number is right for you. That is what is unknown at this time.

I am 50 - my bikini days are over, so I am fine with not becoming a ballerina.

You are so determined girl!

But then in your last paragraph you sort of sunk.   Maybe a talk about optimism is what he thinks you need.  I know your all about now, and make it happen.  Which I think is perfect.  But can you see yourself the same as when you were at the age of 23?   I'm just wondering if this is where you might not see the possible happening?  Your so into the "now", that your not looking into the future?  How about this, picture yourself NOW, with the weight you were at age 23, and maintaining it!  Sounds good doesn't it. :)

To me it's almost like a tease.  You want now, what you had then.  Or you KNOW you can have it, but just not yet so you focus on now.  Lol,, I just got confused saying that!!haha 

I like your trainer, I think he's focusing you in the right direction.  But, just last week you were all spaghetti like and now your pushing harder!!!  UGHHHH girl!!  Be careful or your going to be the next one in ER!!!  That scares me.

 Yeah, I was sphagetti when--I had my period.  Got quite emotional and insecure during that. He's great.  God's blessing to me. Yeah, I just didn't picture I could be that so soon, or really at all.  I have been focused on my small bites--2 lbs, 2lbs, 2lbs, not 10, 20, 30, etc. Last few days has been really an awakening as my body just seemed to morph dramatically.  Took me by surprise. Can I see myself the same as 23?  Given where I am at now...actually better!  Wow, can't believe I said that.  But I've never been so amazingly strong and capable. He's done wonders for me.  I want to give him an Xmas gift.  I was thinking of sending him on a flying lesson at a local airport, the card would say he's made the sky the limit, or something like that.  Whatcha think?

ER?  Oh, you don't even know--I have had 4 injuries this year, all from trying to live healthier!

Omg, I think that would be an excellent present.  It sort of gave me the shivers when I read it.  But WOW, expensive!!  Sure you want to spend that much?!?!  Lol, I have no idea how much those lessons even are, but they sounds spendy!

Girl, four times!!  Has he taken all of these injuries into consideration??  That's a little much in my book. Be careful!!!

LOL, two were before him (when I started running) and then I cut myself in the kitchen preparing healthy food and then got achilles tendonitis from our workouts.  The latter two he worked around, and the achilles he's helped manage healing with proper techniques. The flight would be equivalent to the cost of one session.  Kind of see it like how you're supposed to tip your stylist...someone you see regularly.  Plus, he's given me a handful of free sessions for my investment since I'm going to be a long-term client.   Plus, he's given me more gifts than I can list in helping me change.

I could save it for the century mark, but, God, I'd love to see his face with that one.  Caveat, I'd want to meet him there to see him have a great time.