Why Do We Do It?

Why do so many of us do well for months and then all of a sudden, we are off on a binge that can vary in length?  Why do we sabotage all of our hard work?  Are we stupid or what?  Human maybe, but why don't we just do what we should to get completely back on track as before.  Why when we are struggling do we avoid posting on the board?  Seems to me we should do the opposite in hopes of getting back on track.  Do we want the food so much that that's is not what we want?  We can play a lot of tricks on our mind.    Is the feelings of better health and energy, etc. mean so little to us.  We can be on such a high when that scale is moving steadily downward.  I know we all need to do what we can to motivate one another, but ultimately it's up to the individual.  Let's all try to get gung ho, myself included!

Thanks for listening everyone.

Brenda  

Good post, B! It is hard to say why. I think for me, the progress tends to be so slow, i lose heart.  This is why I am trying to re-think and re-value what all these habits deliver for me. Weight loss is the goal, when actually, all the other things are just as valuable.  All the *things* we do to lose weight are valuable beyond the target and need to be as automatic as hair brushing, housecleaning, toothbrushing, writing thank you cards, etc.  Where is everyone?  This time of year is when we really need to be on track!

i too feel like my progress is so slow i wanna scream. the first 20lbs seemed like a breeze. now i feel like i've been stuck for 2 months. i don't do alot of posting about it tho because really in the past all i did was whine and make excuses. i'm trying not to do that so much. it's hard tho hehe caught myself doing it today. i feel like i did horribly during thanksgiving week. i didn't exercise at all the whole week and i definately ate too many of the wrong things. and it doesn't help that i'm PMSing right now i'm putting all my energy these days into ignoring the lil voice in my head that always tells me i already blew it last week and since i've been stuck so long it ain't working anyway so i should just give up. that voice is so LOUD! while my voice is so quiet!

Because diets don't work.  Because deprivation itself will create the urge against it.  Because from the posts I read, we buy into "diets" hook, line, and sinker and think that's what we need.  Because we don't lose weight the right way.   Yeah, yeah, I'm on my pedestal, but I think some are bringing this on themselves. Moderation is the key.

I think you need to take the "WE" out of your post, Jersey, because you do not speak for all of us. Happy Holidays!

Oh come off it.  We was used to reference those who fall off the wagon.  If you don't, then it doesn't apply to you.

Damn Bernda, it's like you crawled into my brain.. I have been off track for three weeks, two of which I was not happy woth my eating at all, and you are right, I ddin't post. I am now 3 days into being back on track, and I will see how much damage I did, when I weigh in on Friday. Why do we do it???? That's such a good question.....Even when we are able to step back and say... Hey I am sabotaging myself, I need to stop, I am at most times unable to stop, because of that all or nothing mentality. The truth is, I should post when I fail, but I don't want to post, because I think that would hold me accountable and I even though I know what I did, accountabililty in this sense makes me feel like a temporary failure, and it hurts. I think it's laso important to look at from this perspective -  I am used to eating what I want, and how I want, I can control it, and in the 31 years of my life, I made tons of bad choices that became habituated thoroughout time, and now, I am fighting that habit basically... Every day, is a semi struggle, to stay on track, and fight the habit. Good post Brenda, it's just what I needed this morning, to keep me going strong !!!

I know when I don't eat right I will not exercise either.  STUPID!!  It should be just the opposite.  I really do have that well I've already blew it mentality.  I should realize that for myself, I am just better staying on track completely.  Failure tends to lead to more failure for me.  It should not be that way.   I have also been doing well since Monday, but Thanksgiving OMG!!  I haven't gained any weight, but I definitely haven't lost either.  I am a long way from maintenance and it gets aggravating! I was like you Maria all my life.  I ate what I wanted and however much I wanted.  I would see thin people around me watching what they ate.  I should have been the one watching it.   If I don't pick up the pace soon, I may join Weigh****chers.  I think I will feel embarrassed if I weigh more than a week or so and don't lose.  In the long run that and the support meetings may help me.   I wanted to have a nice chunk off my chunk by next summer!  It's time to get my head out of my ass! Brenda

 

 

 

 

Hi Brenda, I wondered the same thing this morning when I realized suddenly that I hadn't been eating as much protein as I should.  I started a new job a month ago , as you know, and I tend to grab things that are okay if eaten in addition to my meals, but I haven't been able to fit meals in.  So dinner tends to be trail mix and wheat pretzels, which are portable but pack very little in terms of real nutrition.  I also realized that my apples had dried up in my fruit basket. LOL   I think that it's not a matter of us consciously sabotaging ourselves, it's just a matter of temporarily losing sight of what has to be done for the rest of our lives.  But working a 40 hour regular job and then another 30 hours a week on top of that at a part time job, I'm lucky to be breathing. I think for myself I need to look at it as an ongoing process.  To me there are no bad or good days.  Every day when I wake up I try to remain conscious of where I have to be for that day.  It's no longer goal oriented for me, I just do what I have to do.  Right now I am preparing for surgery on December 19 so I am concentrating on making myself strong for that.  It's recognizing where you've slipped up and changing even one thing about that a day.  I am not always the angel you think I am.  I just realize I have to work it 150% every single day for the rest of my life.  It's a mindset that has to be maintained all the time, not just to lose that 10 or 15 pounds I still need to lose. So for me I have determined that upping my water intake and removing the wheat pretzels are goals for the week.  I haven't been drinking nearly as much as I should.  Small steps for me to regain that mindset instead of making unattainable goals.