First Time & With a Question.

Hello to all,

 

 

This is my first time speaking out on the board. I joined awhile ago but have only been peeking about. I have a bit of a problem interacting with people but do find it much easier to talk to people over the net.

 

Anyways I was wondering if anyone knows of places like Brookhaven Obesity Clinic? I wanted to get in there but have been told they don’t take people from out of state and they are in NY and am in MO. So does anyone happen to of a place like it?

 

 

Am sorry if this wasted anyone’s time or if I placed this under the wrong area and yeah still thank you all who took time to notice me.

 

Hello, I do not know of any place like that but doing an online search might turn you up something. 

I mainly just wanted to say welcome and never feel like you can't ask questions or join right in.

Hello :) I looked up online and there are a few in MO.  Here's the link with the list:  http://www.omnimedicalsearch.com/weight_loss_clinics/missour i.html Good luck!!

Thanks for the replies!  

 

 

I know I should not feel that I need to stay on the side lines but its one of my problems. I don’t do well with be around people. I rarely leave me home nor can I deal real well with having to talk to people. If I have to I can’t look them in the eyes and a lot of the times I break down crying. I am working on it but doing it alone is not easy at all.

 

 

Thanks Janina for the list I will look into those places though I really need to find a place that takes you in and keeps you. I won’t get the help or the support I need to save my life at home. It’s taking me over two years to come to terms with that. Sometimes in life you just don’t get the sweet deal or the love you so dearly want.

 

Well it looks as if Janina gave ya a good place to start.  I dont have anything to add, except welcome :)

Hi Dream Girl, I just read your bio and also your post and I just wanted to say that I hope everything works out for you.  The situation you're in sounds disturbing, to say the least, and I hope that it gets better for you soon.  I think if I were you I would go to the hospital and tell them you want to go to an obesity clinic.  Ask them if they have a place or know of a place locally where you can go.  If you can't do that, then use the internet to get in touch with doctors who can refer you to an obesity clinic.   Otherwise, it sounds like you're accepting your victimized state and you need to do the best you can do and find the strength to power yourself beyond that...you need to propel yourself out of this situation and have the strength to keep yourself "out there" long enough to get yourself help. Good luck. -Julie

I will try to say this easily. Dream Girl, YOU are taking the first step and dreaming of a new life, a new beginning and namingly so by Dream Girl. You are on this site and apparently doing research and you yes you made the 1st step and asked for help Girl. YOU go GIRL! It takes just a baby step and each step will lead to one more with your yes YOUR dreams. You are alive and life is not easy and not fair but yes YOU are alive and reaching out. Girlie girl, stay focused on your dream, and that is a healthier YOU. YOU deserve it even if at any time you might not feel it on the outside, but deep down in your heart in the pit of your stomach you do know and you do feel YOU want to be the healthy and feel good. Put one step in front of the other any way that you can, by reaching out on this site, walking around your room, search the internet but keep doing it!!!! Been down, very very low suicidal and apparently it didnt work or I wouldnt be typing this but I am here telling you that as one that has been as low as low can get sometimes if you step at a time dont work take it one second or one moment until you can do more. Hang tight baby girl, cause YOU can make it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Sharon You are well worth my time I might add!!!!!!

First just want to say again thanks for the replies and the kind friendly welcomes. It means a lot to hear from such nice wonderful people like yourselves. Julie thank you for the support alas I have gone to the doctor twice now for chest pain and shortness of breath. Both times I was sent away saying my whole problem is depression. Ok yeah I do have problems like fears of being in public and see and have other people see me but I am very much over weight. I have back and hip problems cause of my weight which also keeps me from walking much. So far the doctors I have seen of late seem to know nothing about obesity or programs about them. You know I really think there needs to be now an extra class in obesity mandatory for doctors to get there degree. So much of the world is overweight now days and many reach past the boarder lines from over weight to obese. So many people just seem to sweep it under the rug. Maybe if people where just more willing to talk seriously about it and not take heavy/over weight/fat/obese  whatever you want to call it as a joke. I know how to take a joke as good as the next person but there is a time for jokes and a time for action and helping people. Ok am sorry I just so ranted just then and kinda got off topic lol. Anyways I have been to doctors and am just trying to get to one that will do something for me but it’s not easy with not being able to do much for myself or count on anyone much. I am doing what I can now and really am pushing myself. Maybe though if I don’t make it maybe something I say might help another. Never the less I am much more voting for me making it and helping others too lol.

 

 

 

I truly hope you get the help you need.  Remember, YOU HAVE FRIENDS HERE!   Please keep in touch. Brenda

I'm a little late, but welcome!  There's a lot of great people in this place.  I read your story and it does sound like you need some help.  Maybe some self esteem too!  This is a good start for you.  I know what you mean about feeling guilty and ashamed about being seen.  I myself have that issue.  I do go out in public though.  My fear of it is just with dh's friends and his coworkers.  I'm ashamed of what they will think of me so I never go to any of his gatherings or when they ask to go out on Friday nights.  It's been four years and so far I've escaped meeting any of them.  I'm dreading the reality taht I have to go back to his home town some time soon.  So this is why I'm here!  Well one of the reasons anyway. :)   Think everyone would probably like us or not be "ashamed" by us at all if they saw us.  It's all in our heads.  You can email me if you like.  Maybe we can work on it together.  I've also been in a mentally abusive relationship for fifteen years so I know where your coming from.  

Glad you realized you are worth it and talked here.  We are all here to help each other.  Heck I know I have already felt like a fool on here several times! :)  But, everyone here has only been supportive, never ever have they turned thier back on me or said anything bad. 

Welcome and an applause to your first step!

Holly