Why do you really want to lose weight?

Today while I was on my bike I was thinking about one reason why I want to lose weight.  I think it would be sort of fun if everyone admits why they would like to lose weight except for the obvious....good health.  We already know health is first on the list.

1.  I want to be able to gratify my dh to no end.  He thinks I can now, just wait until I lose all this weight!  I want to be able to curl his toes even more than now.  I want all the negative thoughts of  I'm too fat for him, is he cheating (no he's not its all me, but I do think it), and I can't stop thinking I don't satisfy him enough in every way.  He tells me he loves me a LOT.  But I can't stop wondering if I'm holding him back since I'm so big.  I guess I want to be the one he's proud showing off.  I won't even go to his friends house with him because I'm ashamed.

2.  My kids.  I want my little ones to be able to proudly say I'm their mom.  I want to bike ride with them.  I want my teen age daughter to once say "your hot mom", like she did so many times once before when I lost weight.  She was so proud of her mom at that time.  She was so proud that her friends thought I was beautiful.  I want to be able to go into their class room and not have kids say "your moms fat".  I think it really hurts them.  I also loved it when they were able to wrap thier little arms around me fully.  My ten year old son is the most loveable rough little boy I've ever seen.ha  He always totally puts his arms as much around me as he can and hugs sooo tight.  I want to be able for him to hug all of me.

3.  When I got down to 190 before (thinnest of my life) I wasn't around any family except for one sister.  I recently divorced, raising four kids by myself so I couldn't afford plane tickets to go show myself off to my parents.  They wanted to see me so bad.  My dad has this thing with weight, although he would never admit it.  He never said anything bad to me ever.  But I knew in his heart he wanted me to lose the weight.  Well since then he as died.  His picture is in my family room (turned into gym) where I work out.  Today I was staring at it while I was on my bike and I started crying.  I sooo wish I could have gone down there to see him.  He would of been so proud of me.  To this day my mom still speaks about it, how she wishes she could of afforded a plane ticket to see me at that time.  Well now I almost feel like I'm losing weight for my dad.  I know that sounds sort of strange.  But I do believe he can see me.  I pray to God all the time, and I also talk to my dad.  I want to lose my weight again so he can see me and be proud of me.

I think those are my most important reasons I want to lose.  Then of course there is shopping..hehe Gotta love the shopping!  But those thoughts are mainly it.

1.  Clothes! I am a clothes horse.

2.  More credibility at work/public.  I hate this about our society, but studies have proven that thinner people are hired faster, over others who are more qualified but fat. I also work in education/child health area. I need to walk the talk.

3.  Improved self esteem - and not so much from the improved looks as regaining my self respect that I am in control of food and do not abuse it. 4.  I do feel less achy.  i think I am getting arthritic, certain a lot more joint aches at least as i got over age 40.  And Holly, for sure your dad not only sees you, but is with you! I have lived away from my parents for most of my adult life, so i share your sorrow on that. Wish I could say it gets better and you won't miss him so much...but alas, it gets worse as you realize what you are missing.

1. Play softball again. I can play now and am still really good at it regardless of my weight I am an athletic fat girl. lol. But being thinner would make it ALOT easier to do. Soon I want to start coaching at a high school somewhere.  :) 2. Feel more confident with my body. Go out and pick me up a man. lol. I don't want to be 'THIN" Just thick 170. I want my ass and thighs. Just more confidence in myself. 3. Clothes LOTS of CLOTHEs. Like Neecee i am in love with clothes. So as soon as I get to 170 I should be a 13/14. Which is still plus size but that does not bug me at all. Lots of pretty clothes. 4. Ride a jetski and not be afraid i am going to sink it with my weight!!! Also get back on the lovely rollercoaster without the worry of not fitting....ever been there? I have and there were other matters that made everything worse. Most embarrassing moment of my life...

Holly that's such a good question.

1.  I want to be able to wear an AWESOME wedding dress and not feel I look like the Good Year Blimp. 2.  To be able to keep up with my wonderful DB would be great.  When we go on vacation I know I hold him back as he's in much better shape than I am.  I do make him go ahead in museums while I sit a spell, however, I would love to be walking with him.  3.  To be able to sit in an airline seat and have it where I'm not crowding the person next to me, where I can actually fit in the seat comfortably, and even have the tray table down and it's not resting on my thighs. 4.  To be able to go on a vacation to Italy and not be limited on what I see due to my weight limitations.  Carrying around 330 lbs. on a 5' 1" frame is a killer. 5.  Buy a pair of jeans.  I haven't worn those since my early 20's.

 

I just want to be the "Brick House" I was in college!....  Whew I was fione!!!! I want to feel confident on my husband's arm when we go places.  We always seem to run into sombody he went to highschool with or an "ex".   I want to feel sexy when I wear lingerie .  I do not wear it because I just do not feel cute in it... I know men.. could care less.. but ya know.. I wanna be able to do a little dance for my man and feel like a goddess and not a mess...LOL  Avoid health issues such a hypertension, diabetes, and other co-morbities. Last but not least.... it is my desire to wear a size 16 in jeans... I could care less what the scale said as long as I was in those jeans!!!

Not necessarily in order: 1: Shopping. I love clothes. I think they're fun as HELL! I don't put much effort into what I wear now because (a) there isn't much out there for me and (b) the fun and creativity are gone when I know there are only 2 or 3 stores I can shop at anyway. Also, to enjoy shopping with my best friend, when we can BOTH try on cute dresses at the SAME TIME! 2: I am going to my first wedding this July; my close friend is getting married. I would like to wear a beautiful dress bought at a normal boutique...maybe one of the really cute ones by my house that carry unique, handmade stuff. If I just suck it up and DON'T GIVE UP, this is definitely a realistic goal for me. 3: To gain self confidence and go on my first date. (Can't believe I just admitted I've never been on one!) I predict that I will start feeling like a true babe at around 175. 4: To travel and not feel like Godzilla or the Stereotypical Fat American wherever I go. I love East Asia especially but promised myself I would not return until I know I will enjoy the trip fully -- it's a waste of money otherwise. In Japan I am like 4-5 times the size of anyone next to me in an elevator! 5: To not think twice about being in a photograph, and to start taking a lot of them. I miss this. Those are just the first five that came to mind! Can I come back to this?

2 reasons. 1.  I dont want to die.  I dont go to bed now wondering if I will wake up.  I want to see my grandchildren.  I suppose you could say it is about health - but it is more than that for me. 2. to advance my career.  I know that some people look at me and wonder "if she takes care of herself so poorly, how can she take care of my insurance?"

Wow... everyone here ha**** the nail on the head already!  But personally, for ME... on top of much of what others have already added... I want to loose weight because:  1. I want to live to see my youngest child grow up- we adopted her at birth (I actually cut her cord:) and I was 43 when she was born... I want desperately to see her children... to see her a happy mom. She is the sweetest little girl and LOVES babies. I know she will be a GOOD  mom :)  2. ENERGY... I need ENERGY! I want to sleep better and not feel tired 24/7. I want to go out in the yard and play ball, badminton etc. 3. It truly IS about my health/longevity. And QUALITY of life. It's kinda like- my son has a heart defect. At 14 months we were told he had to have open heart surgery to repair this OR he'd live to be around 5 is all. They followed this by saying he MIGHT live to see his tenth birthday but the last 5 years would not be QUALITY. He would be very sick.   This is how I see ME.... IF I LIVE that long at this weight.... it would likely not be a good time :(  I want LIFE!!   (BTW- it was no option- ds HAD his surgery LOL) 4. I want to MOVE! I want to WALK, I want to DO things and do them COMFORTABLY. I want to be able to NOT be embarrassed as I take my ped CPR/1st Aid classes and I have to get on my knees to practice.... I want to have NO BULK as I maneuver into my position!  (and my next one is a week from tomorrow :( 5. CLOTHES!  I want to get into nice clothes. I have dressed frumpy for so many years now. I want terribly to wear a nice outfit for dh's Christmas dinner at work.  I always dress nice for it... but dressing nice does not make me LOOK nice :( I know there are many other reasons but these are some :)  

I'm so glad your dad didn't say anything negative about your overweight.  Mine wouldn't leave me alone about it.  Just about every time I'd visit him and my mom, he'd say "well, are you exercising?  Are you doing something about it?"  Like I needed to be constantly reminded of it.  He's no longer alive, and I am in the process of making my Ninth Step amends.  He's on my amends list.  I wrote him a nice letter, telling him why I gossiped about him to other family members, and apologizing for it.  There were other things I needed to apologize to him for, but that was a biggie. I'm glad your husband doesn't seem ashamed of you.  I sometimes felt I stayed fat just to spite my dad.  That certainly isn't a healthy attitude. Denise Phares/Kitties4

well, let's just say i have some serious issues which is why i want to lose. of course all of the ones that are mentioned are the reason. just different order.    1-my daughter i want to run and play and have lots of energy with her    2- i want to not only be sexy but feel sexy    3- i will go shopping at victoria secret, as it was mentioned i don't wear it now for one i'm too shy to go in there as big as i am and second i don't feel beautiful.