Family letter - One more response came in last night

I got a voicemail from my Aunt last night. She said... I got your letter, it was very well written, and I want you to know that I am going to answer you, because you deserve answers to your questions, but it will take me some time, because I don't write in english.  I also want you to know how happy I am that you want to be a part of our lives again, we love you very much and your cousins miss you, and can't wait to see you. I am proud of you for the woman you have become, and keep faith in God, remember that people are imperfect, and they sin, and we need to forgive. I love you That makes 2 down, and 1 more, the most important one of all to go. Also, I want to thank all of you guys for posting your words of wisdom and encouragement on my first thread. You never know when you will be able to change someones life with your words, and it's heartwarming to see such support on here. Thanks everyone....

You are getting fast responses and they seem positive, which obviously means a lot to you.  I can't imagine what it must have been like to lose your mother at such a young age.  My step son who now lives with us lost his mother 18 mos. ago at the tender age of 11.  I know how hard it has been for him and he has come a long way.  His father was there for him, but yours wasn't.   It's too bad that letter wasn't written years ago.  You will feel better once you can let go of all that anger and get your feelings out.  Maybe in time you can get back at least some or all of the closeness you once had.  It seems like you want to forgive them and for them to explain.  My father was not a good parent at all and I am thankful that my mother was always there for me.  I held a grudge against him for many years.  I wanted to forgive him, but he never really wanted to change and then he died.  We all need to feel that security of a parent that we can always count on when we're younger.   Brenda

Aww, I'm so happy for you.  That actually brought a tear to my eye.  She's letting you know she knows she has done wrong...but it's hard for her also.  You say the last letter is the most important one to you.  I just want to let you know that no matter what happens with this last letter, just think of how you changed your and these other two people's lives.  It not only stops there...but your cousins and all kinds of family members.  It has affected not only your life and the three you wrote too...but all your other relatives also.  I'm sure they can feel the love and warmth when you talk to them or even hearing about you through others.  I know that sounds sort of sappy, but just think about it.  Especially being so far apart from another.  Otherwise either way, you have the love you thought you lost so long ago. It was there all along, you guys just needed to find each other again. I'm praying you find what your looking from your last letter.  Holly

Boy howdy on that, Holly.  Do not put too much emotional stock into the "most important letter of all"... it is what it is...the respondee is only human, and 'round here, we know that humans don't always make the right choices right off.  If this person comes off not that way you dream, hopefully you will allow that to be.  It is what it is, my girl.

wow, for someone who ain't up on her english, that was pretty eloquent.  I love how she brought up that we do need to forgive.  If we want forgiveness...be forgiving.  i would add...if we want love, be loving.