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I have a hard time deciding if I am an emotional eater or not. I know I'm an overeater but I don't feel like it's caused by emotion.  I would REALLY love to pinpoint "why" I overeat, but the only thing I can come up with is taste and pleasure. Am I abnormal?  Do all of you know you are emotional eaters?  It seems my thoughts consist of two things as a guy, food and sex. And since I'm married it's usually food way before sex.  I do know that I eat because it makes me feel better but I can't say that's an emotional thing because I don't feel 'bad' before I eat.  Eating is just simply pleasurable to me. Kinda like going on vacation makes you feel better. Food makes me feel the same way.  It's been a while since I've been on the board and of course I've been slacking off and eating all wrong again.  No big deal, I'll get back on track.  After reading some of the literature on the website it got me to thinking about why I am the way I am and I just realized I have no clue. Some of the transformations from the website: "stop over-eating when you feel lonely, humiliated and bored." I eat when I'm bored but not when I'm lonely or humiliated.  It has always been just a very pleasurable something to do. I rarely ever feel lonely or humiliated. "stop eating when you feel hopeless, feel not a whole person and not good enough." I don't do this either. I feel those things yes, but I don't resort to food when I feel that way. When I overeat I'm usually in a great mood. "handle feelings of emptiness, guilt and daily life stressors without overeating. " I don't eat to handle these things.  I just like to eat and eat a lot!  I can't relate any of these to my overeating but I do sometimes feel guilt when I overeat. That guilt is felt because of the failed commitments I've made to myself NOT to overeat.  So overeating causes guilt, but guilt doesn't cause overeating.
"love, intimacy and structure fulfilled without snacking. You won't feel the urge to eat when someone doesn't treat you right." Nope, not me either. I don't eat from that.  When people don't treat me right I just bru**** off after 5 or 10 minutes. The government does me wrong every time I get a paycheck, but I don't go to McD's for a 1/4 pounder + tax. "daily life and frustrated ambitions without eating." Frustration??  I'm rarely frustrated anymore and when I am I'm usually too pissed to eat. It's much more soothing for me to throw **** around, cuss and scream. So, all of that being said I don't think I'm an emotional eater.  Why do I not just fit into a box?  Do I really eat for the 'pleasure'  and taste?? Is that emotional???  Kinda like how I love buying new stuff to make me 'feel' better??? I think my 'feeling better' is really the lack of boredom. When I'm bored, I'm irritated.  So could it be something emotional?  BAH! Confusing......damnit!

Kriz, I've been wondering where you were.  I agree with pretty much everything you said.  I believe I eat for the same reasons.  I think it just is what it is and it's a constant struggle to control it.  I just don't know about all the other stuff for me.   I love reading your posts, your so funny.  Dont' stay away so long!

Brenda

 

Truth be told I've been on a geek's crack binge for the last couple of weeks. (geek crack  = World of Warcraft or or mmorpg games)  Work has also gotten a little more busy. Either that or I finally decided to do some work. (not sure!) I do a lot of my posting from work.  And then there's the whole "I know I need to get back in control and if I go to that site I know it will help me but damnit, I want my fried chicken!"  (had some Bojangles cajun, juicy, delightful trans-fat injected fried chicken today.. Yum! Bo knows!) I have a really hard time accepting that it is what it is because I feel like I can always change something if I  A. understand what needs to change and B. believe I can change it. Good news is I'm perm at the new job and I got some good insurance finally. The cards should be at in the mail in a few days. At that point I can go see the doc and get some check ups done.. a frontal lobotomy or two.. so then maybe I can start figuring out what makes me tick.