Not been a good week...

Sorry I haven't posted much - it's just been a very bad past week or so. School is keeping me really busy. My dh is acting like a butt again - ran our cell phone bill up to $750 with 4,000+ txt messages to "his friend" in NC (just happens to be a 21 year old girl) and then is lying to me about money. The good thing about all of this - I haven't turned to food for comfort! Yay me!

Now this is strength of character!  God bless you, girl..

I have an idea on how you could lose a couple of hundred pounds overnight......

Trust me, I've thought of that.... haha

How much more of his **** do you plan on taking? This is the second time I've heard about this lout and *i'm* already over him.  

Here Here! At some point I found myself lying next to the knuckle dragger thinking that if I hit him really really hard in the head with the cast iron skillet he might not wake up....   tempting as it was I decided to stay out of jail and get a divorce instead.... Funny thing was... I stayed in the marriage as long as I did, in part, because I was worried about being a broke single mom.... once he was gone I was shocked to realize how much money a single mom could have if her husband was not spending her paycheck on pot and hookers! 

dump the chump before you get AIDS.  The old days when a lady might be able to somehow justify "but he's a decent provider" and live with it are over. This guy risks your life every time he cats around.  ha ha, good ole text messaging....good thing he's dumber than a rock on top of beng a liar and a cheater or you would not have caught on. I am proud of you for non-self destructive responses, keep it up.  You deserve better, my dear.

I know I do, and I'm learning to love myself so much more as I lose more weight. Honestly, I don't want to take anymore of this crap, but I have no $, no car, no job, no where to go right now. I just started my last semester of school and I'd like to fini**** before making any major moves. I still want to enlist in the military and I'm hanging on by a thread so I can follow my dreams. Yes, I'm using him for support and setting myself for more heartache right now, but I refuse to let him get in the way of my dreams right now.

sounds like you have a plan....and that is being a thinking lady. Good for you, and we are all pulling for you.  Hang tough, there is something better for you and sounds like you have the determination to go grab that brass ring. (((heather)))))

Hi Heather, After 18 years of marriage my marriage ended.  This was back in May of 2002.  I had no job, no money, no benefits, nothing.  But I was also unhappy enough not to care.  He "offered" to stay for the summer and I just could not imagine living or sleeping with him for one more day.  I told him no and he left.  Through the summer I didn't work.  I sold my engagement ring and I took advantage of whatever money he gave me for child support.  I made it through and at the end of the summer when the boys went back to school I found a job making $10.00 an hour.  No benefits still but I was working on it.  I found myself doing better on my measly $10.00 an hour then on the big paycheck he used to bring in.  Fast forward to 5 years later.  I am in a new relationship with my soul mate, money is no longer an issue, I have a great job with fantastic benefits and I am at a weight that I haven't been at since I was 20 years old.

We are stronger than we think, darling.  Believe me.