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OMG.... you DIDN'T date my ex dh did you??   LOL Honest to "higher power"... as we split I asked my ex dh what his plans were & he told me that he wanted to become a pro boxer (what a dork... he's a woos)  THEN, he ended up joining the Navy... then he went to Bafoonery  school!! I nearly laughed my A$$ off as I learned that!  Bafoonery must not be a good paying job cause the first (& only) child support check he sent after leaving the Navy- bounced :)

Yeah, Elizabeth, but how would you like to be married to Santa Claus? You can't beat that!!!!!   It's Christmas EVERY DAY for me.     Better than an ole clown!          LOL 

I have to say that ya'll's post did come across as mean.  I lurked for a long time before I even posted anything and I got a sense of Sheri's personality.  So many times I wanted to write her and tell her to put more of her story on her profile because she is such a interesting person.  Reading what she went thru made me absolutely certain I didn't want surgery.   With that being said,  I know that if she were to say something that I thought was mean  now I wouldn't think much about it because I know she is in pain.  But for someone new... who might not have any support in real life... who might very well weigh 300 lbs or more, this might have been their last hope.  It's very sad to me.  I hope she comes back or goes to another board that she is comfortable with. 

A couple of things about this post really concern me: 1) Don't take me as a typical post RNY example. I wasn't going in, and am not coming out. Read the 50,000 storied on the Main and RNY boards for a better survey of the land! I'm not even sure I don't want surgery based on what I have experienced-- I just want it to start working and get outta my way soon. It will. 2) I probably won't share anything more non-weight loss related on my profile, but thanks for the compliment. 3) I'm not in the business of mollycoddling adults-- nor are any of us. No one was being mean, but we were being silly-- and I doubt *that* is gonna change any time soon. After the 900th person asks you what your plan is (without checking the profiles you've created to explain precisely that) it does get a little old.  4) If a goofy response on a webboard sets you into a tailspin, there's bigger issues at hand than weight loss, and of the variety we're really not qualified to address here. I'm sorry any human is that sensitive-- it must be painful-- and I hope she gets the help she needs.

Shari, what was/is your plan for weight loss??? How have you had so much success? 

Once a week, I try to kick the living crap out of some chubby whiny guy. I find it cathartic.

Hey Everyone, I just wanted to explain. Nobody in particular upset me. I just decided to delete my account because I actually am suffering an eating disorder. I was triggered to binge by some things I read, so I decided it would be better if I joined an eating disorder forum.  I apologize to those who tried to support me. The talk of encouragement didn't come in until AFTER I had sent my request to have my account deleted. It took some time for the request to go through. I wish you all luck on your journey. I appreciate what you are all going through. I know it's difficult.  Personally, I am just trying to  learn how to loose weight without starving myself and over exercising. I was rejected for surgery based on my eating disorder (but not my weight).  As per those that are upset that I posted in the thread without 'lurking' first, I honestly thought it was more rude to lurk. You all share such personal information here, I didn't want to be a spy.  Thanks again to those who are supportive... I'll continue my journey elsewhere. :) Good luck every one!!!! May the weight loss angels be with you.

WW- That's some deep stuff you got goin' on there...and maybe some people here could have helped you (or would have tried harder) if you'd let us know what's really on your mind! I am a nutcase, but I'm not that mean. I would think that before you can address your weight loss, getting a handle on your eating disorders probably does need to come first. Some people here probably have similar experiences, but are in different places in their lives, you know? I hope you come to peace with food.

Thank you. It is now obvious we got off on the wrong foot. I shouldn't have made my first post when I was feeling so overly-sensitive. Bad idea on my part. I am glad we can bury the hatchet and move on.  I noticed after the first reply that I should be here. Too many triggers. So, I'll move along and try eating disorder treatment. It just seemed like a lot to divulge in my first post. I needed to get warmed up first. But, I think it's good I came back to resolve this with you. If there's one thing that bothers my triggers, it's disaccord.

My thoughts are that when no one else understands why in th hell I need=want to lose the weight, I can come to these boards are read what others are going through. As a Healthcare Professional and a person that has tried all the Weightloss diets out there and yes even had the Lap Band Surgery which had to be removed the motivation comes from within but yes it does help to read that I am not alone on this journey to good health. The reasons the the WLS was my ''Health'' ie:Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, High Cholesterol, Joint Pain. Do I admit to a eating problem? DUH If I didnt have a problem I wouldnt have gained weight, exercised excessively, taken diet pills , you name it as many have done. Of course when I was getting Pre-op testing I knew exactly what to say and what not to say because where do I work but in a Hospital Operating Room. Many have went before me and I saw and see them daily. Gee I work with Surgeons on a daily basis and know what to say and how to say it. My point is that I have to be honest to myself and so do you with eating issues and weightloss. What works for me might not for others. I did follow the rules with the WLS and went to the gym and ate what I supposed to didnt work for me to the point of keep the Band. It did make me realize that I have the Power to succeed and I deserve to be Healthy. I still work out at the gym (still hate going and sweating after 2 yrs LOL) I eat or try to eat Healthy and actually was asked to come to work for WW (on a part-time basis I choose). Hey works for me and keeps me in check most of the time and that is whats important to me any way. Gosh I hope this helps someone..........