Abuse

Jupiter6
on 8/15/07 9:39 am - Near Media, Pa- South of Philly, NJ

I kind of got to the point where the statute of limitations on my miserable childhood is up. Doesn't matter why anymore-- just matters what I am gonna do about it. Every member of my family is morbidly obese, and that's been the case for many generations. We're not the Nouveau Fat!

"Oh sweet and sour Jesus, that is GOOD!" - Stephen Colbert Lap RNY 7/07-- Lap Gallbladder 5/08--
     Emergency Bowel Repair 6/08 -Dr. Meilahn, Temple U.   Upper and Lower Bleph/Lower Face Lift
     12/08
     Fraxel Repair 2/09-- Lower Bleph Re-Do 5/09  -Dr. Pontell, Media PA Mastopexy/Massive
     Brachioplasty/ Extended Abdominoplasty (plus Mons Lift and Upper Leg lift) / Hernia Repair
     6/24/09 ---Butt Lift and Lateral Thighplasty Scheduled 7/6/10 - Dr. Ivor Kaplan VA Beach
     Total Cost: $33,500   Start wt: 368   RNY wt: 300 Goal wt: 150   Current wt: 148.2 BMI: 24.7

violamom
on 8/15/07 10:38 am - veradale, WA

LOL... on statute of limitations... for me it isnt about blame or anything. The why is factual information.... but I wouldnt have it any other way, because I am who I am today as a result.... and I like who I am... we have some victorian fatties way back..... I think they looked great in those dresses!

What I've eaten is here for the world to see
336.1 (8-1-07)/319.0 (12-28-07)/200 (goal for 12-31-08)/160 (goal)
Next mini goal is 290 by 1-31-08

mzclaus
on 8/15/07 10:20 am - Lafayette, LA

Well that opened a can of worms! Thanks for being so open and honest. BUT........ We now have to break the cycle. I don't have kids (didn't want to do ***** at 'em like my mom did to me), but you who have children, please be kind and patient with them. And if we had obese ancestors, so be it. We DO need to get on with our lives and quit blaming our weight on others (me especially). So what are we gonna do? Get off our fat asses and exercise and watch our calories, and eat more protein and less sugar and fat. Right? Right! Tomorrow is another day!

Neecee O.
on 8/15/07 12:08 pm - CA

O yeah, both. My mom tells a story that she fails to see the irony in...i have never pointed it out to her, but like most of youall, just observe that it was what it was - now it's up to me: I was 1 year old and my mother fried me as many eggs as my young dad ate...3, but I kept saying me-me-me-me and making grabbing motions with my hands for more...my mother continued to cook 1, then 2, then 3 more eggs...and let me eat all of them! Now, several things have gone thru my mind. Either my "appestat" was broken even back then, and/or I found positive feedback when I ate a lot at one meal. Eventually, it was no cute...i got called humliating names from my dad and sibs. But i stuffed the food down anyway, my way of saying FU, i think. If you have not read my profile, ALL of my normal sibs - me and 3 others have eating disorders. Some are bulimic, others and combo bulimic/anorexic. Think that was an accident? Again, it may be hard to say whether it is genetic or both. Either way, the day I found that out, i got easier on myself. I began treating myself with more nurturing and less blame. AND took responsibility as an adult.

alevans4
on 8/15/07 12:21 pm

" Do you think that our overweight issues are from some kind of abuse, or do you believe in it being hereditary? " Why do you think this is a question with one or the other answer? The only reason I am heavy is me.

Jupiter6
on 8/15/07 12:55 pm - Near Media, Pa- South of Philly, NJ

RNY on 07/16/07

In the end, there's no other answers that mean much, Bert. I feel the same way (see above.)

"Oh sweet and sour Jesus, that is GOOD!" - Stephen Colbert Lap RNY 7/07-- Lap Gallbladder 5/08--
     Emergency Bowel Repair 6/08 -Dr. Meilahn, Temple U.   Upper and Lower Bleph/Lower Face Lift
     12/08
     Fraxel Repair 2/09-- Lower Bleph Re-Do 5/09  -Dr. Pontell, Media PA Mastopexy/Massive
     Brachioplasty/ Extended Abdominoplasty (plus Mons Lift and Upper Leg lift) / Hernia Repair
     6/24/09 ---Butt Lift and Lateral Thighplasty Scheduled 7/6/10 - Dr. Ivor Kaplan VA Beach
     Total Cost: $33,500   Start wt: 368   RNY wt: 300 Goal wt: 150   Current wt: 148.2 BMI: 24.7

kathyvg
on 8/15/07 3:13 pm

I believe parents are to blame when their children are fat. But when you become an adult its up to you to change it.

Neecee O.
on 8/16/07 10:14 am - CA

yeah really, this realization and a dollar can't buy a coke these days. Still gotta do what you gotta do.

brko
on 8/16/07 12:31 am - MO

For me it is both. My father abused me for years and I was happy when my mother divorced him. My moms side of the family is thin and my dads side is heavy. I heard a saying once on T.V., heredity loads the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.

You just have to deal with the deck of cards your dealt and do something about it or stay fat.

Brenda

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