Frustration vs. Determination

LOL..***** in church one of my old standbys too! I ahve learned to survive up here by learning to love to sweat.  Where i am is a dry heat (that's the joke, *But it's a dry heat* this said when it is 114 degrees...like wet dry or swirling could make that any better) Now, the hard part is being in work clothes & sweating...my hair dies a slow death and I am supposed to look professional, not a drowned rat.  Then again, everyone looks like that. I try to cut my hair into a wet look friendly thang.  I've been called a dyke too Shari.  LOL But when home or shopping or whatever, i let the sweat flow.  It is good for you do that!

it's sad.. my husband is 20 years my senior, and I just can't walk with him.  He's always asking, but I can't go far, and frankly I'm too embarassed of myself.  Thank goodness we moved to this wilderness!  I like being in the middle of this acreage where no one can see me prancing around my yard in shorts. Sweets really aren't my thing either, but I did nip at a leftover chop in the fridge at 3:00am.. my witching hour.  (forgiving self.. moving right along). My utter weakness is coke.  I'm coke free right now.. AMEN, but it's probably like ice cream to you. I like the begging idea (reading up).  I cry so easily lately that he's always walking on eggshells and doesn't mind keeping his stash to himself.  Besides, I'm either hitting him up for cooperation, or I'm hitting him up for 25k for surgery.  He fears me spending the money, so he cooperates with what goes in the pantry.  Besides.. he still gets a good home cooked meal every single night, fresh fruit desserts, pots of chicken barley soup or beef barley or minestrone pre packed in single serving containers in the freezer for his lunches with fresh baked turkey white meat and his ocassional bread.  I think he's got a good deal.  I think husbands are/would be more cooperative if we communicated what it is that we need.  No?

You sound like a good wife.  I can't complain really about my husband.  I am one of the lucky ones.  I always tell people, he may be a little stubborn, but I couldn't ask for a better husband.   You seem sad by your words.  I hope you get strength from this board and are able to do what you need to do to make yourself happier.  I've never really been a crier, I just want to lose weight for my health and to feel better.  I wear shorts around the house or a little around the yard, but never when I go somewhere.  My legs and butt have always been the biggest.  Really we should not be this way.  If they don't like it too bad!  Brenda

Hey.. it's better now than it was a year ago when we ran a business.  We'd walk in at about 8:00pm and he'd ask "what's for dinner"..  My stock response "RESERVATIONS"!  LOL  No.. I cooked, but dinner didn't get on the table until 10:00pm.. that's never good. No..  I'm not sad.. just doing emotional backflips with highs and lows on the sugar, and tolerating the pain in the knees .. etc and of course I'm very jealous that my husband is 60, yet looks and acts 35, and I'm half dead!  I'm jealous of his little, tight butt.. jealous that he doesn't have a head full of grays. I guess I'm jealous that he's stil cut.. back, shoulders.   LOL  When we were young, we both wore a size 30 waist.  Yea.. he's up about 5".. but man, I don't even KNOW how far up I am.. I'm afraid to look!  He's still just as fun to dress as the day I met him though.. so that's cool and no matter WHAT it is.. he just makes it LOOK GOOD and he knows it!  lol   I brush off his shoulders, straighten his tie...  and beg him to take the morning off! LOL  He's a good man to tolerate me.  I want to feel healthier as well... but I do want to be his equal again.  NO.. I'm never gonna be the 18 year old he married when he was almost 40, and although he doesn't ever remark.. I don't wanna embarass him either. Husbands can be a lot of fun..  stubborn or laid back..   (Especially when you replace their oreos with mixed nuts).. AHHHHHHhhh   Then you can see this big woman running!  LOL  So.. whacha gonna do about the chips?  Hmm? 

"I think husbands are/would be more cooperative if we communicated what it is that we need. " You are quite correct.  My wife and I rely heavily on open communication from what's for dinner to our lust for other people.  I don't see how other marriages make it without that level of communication. Your spouse is your best friend, your soulmate. If you can't trust them with your deepest darkest desires and you simple needs then who can you trust, ya know?  It's not to say that just because a couple can talk openly like this that attitudes don't flare... Of course they do.. If I tell my wife "No, babe, you can't have that M&M McFlurry because it's going to make me want one" you bet your butt she's gonna be irritated.. But still. I tell her. Usually she gets it and just doesn't do it in front of me.  It goes both ways. :)

(big smile).. yes.. I certainly hear ya!  He's been there through the good AND the bad and there's no one I would ever trust with my life more than him.  It's been a wild.. hmm.. 25 years.  A sense of humor is important too.  I don't know what it would be like if we couldn't laugh.. even at each other!  Personally, I gotta giggle HARD when he laughs at his own jokes.. it's just too cute!

This is SO hard...my DH drags home garbage bag sized chips...he KNOWS how I AM.  So I changed.  I fixed him.  I stay out of them, for the most part or only get out one serving at a time. I guess where I have grown to, is on the rare occasions I eat and eat, it doe snot have to be chips! I'll find something to mack when I get *that way*. Ya know? If you are really struggling with this, ask him to put his treats under lock and key. It can be done! It may help you reframe that the food will not run from you...you have to face the food somehow! Really this is so hard. My friend who developed diabetes, Wanda, her hubby Bruce goes out of the house for his treats...he does not bring things home for her as she finds her way with eating right,.  What a sweetie.