Fat Mind

Destiny's post has disappeared.... Maybe you scared her Shari....  I mean Mistress Shari...

har!

throw those chips in the garbage, or I'll come over and eat them!   

I know all about "Fat Minds."  My almost 15 year old has a fat mind.  He is thinking about food every single waking moment.  Unlike your son though he hasn't gotten his weight under control.  It'snot junk at all, we don't have that in the house, it's just food in large quantities. I have a fat mind too and I make tiny tiny baby steps in the right direction to try to get rid of the fat mind.  This week I'm doing great.  Next week I don't know.  I wish that we both didn't have a fat mind, and of course I blame myself for his!!

My SO has no issues with food. He eats when he's hungry, doesn't when he's not.  He never worries about his body going into starvation mode or counting calories, etc.  I really wish my head were like his.  However, I am sure to tell him about his cigarette addiction which is just as bad as our food problems. LOL  Can't let him off the hook like that. As far as buying what you don't need in the house, let me ask you a question.  When you bought the chips who did you buy them for?  I find myself living vicariously through my son and my SO which makes their lives miserable as well.  If I am craving something I buy it and make them eat it.  I'm not helping anyone at that point.  So while in the store if I am going to buy something "for my son" that I really want, then I don't buy it because neither he or I need it at all!!!  I am accountable even standing in the grocery store, which isn't always easy.

Congrats on the good week.  Baby steps, just keep remembering that.

I give my son some junk food since his weight is under control.  Is that wrong?  My husband does like his sweets and can get away with it.  I can have cookies in the house and it rarely bothers me not to eat them.  They say don't deprive yourself all the time.  Just limit the amount and how often you do it.  I think people would think I was cruel to completely deprive a child if he's not overweight.  My son gets enough exercise in the summer to work off quite a bit.  I never had any children of my own so this is new to me.  I  probably shouldn't think this way, but I have a tendency to think, because I'm fat and my husband is not why should he suffer.  He doesn't really have any bad habits other than eating too many sweets.  He actually exercises sometimes too and he is already on his feet all day and does a lot of walking.   What the hell is he doing with me? Stupidity is the only reason I can think of as to why I bought these chips in the first place.  My husband was at a washer tournament that day and he does like these chips, even though he is not a big chip eater.  Problem is, I should have thought you have more of the problem than he does so put them back.  Maybe that was my fat mind trying to justify it.  At least I bought the South Beach bars at the same time.     My mother tells me I should do to myself what I did for my son.  I told her I wish I had someone to control what I ate.  She doesn't understand and she's never been overweight a day in her life. I tell my husband to yell at me if he sees me eating the wrong foods or too much, but he never does.  I think I've got a lot of  learning to do.  Brenda

I don't think there's anything wrong with giving your child a treat every now and again.  I guess for me the concept of "junk food" is that there is absolutely no nutritional value.  At this point my son is morbidly obese and for me to keep junk food in the house for him is akin to child abuse.  Why buy him things he CLEARLY doesn't need.  If he ends up going out with friends and eating garbage I can't do a thing about it, but as long as I can control something, I will. Yeah, as far as your son not having a weight problem, don't give him one.  Believe it or not there ARE people in this world without food issues.  Imagine?? LOL  The fact that he is constantly thinking about food is perhaps something you could look into, or just chalk it up to the fact that he's a growing boy and maybe, just maybe, has the genetics from his father.  Wouldn't that be a great thing!?!?? You said you have a lot of learning to do.  We all do Brenda.  I usually end my posts saying that I need psychiatric help.  LOL You aren't alone.

We keep no extra food in the house.

All three of us have different issues with food.  My husband likes snacks.  late night hot wings...  stuff like that. My son likes big portions.  He eats more than most grown men. Me - I'll eat everything... and NOT in moderation.  LOL so we shop for the day... and there is no extra.  When the boys wanted ice cream the other day they went to Dairy Queen and had some - I passed.  but none came home to tempt anyone...

You know I'm a big chip eater too. I actually have some in my house right now. I have two types, BBQ, and Flat Earth Mixed Berry.  They have been in my house for more than two weeks now. The BBQ I've touched about 4 times and each time it's been directly after I've gotten home from work. The others I love but only when I'm in a sweet -n- salty mood so I haven't touched em yet. The wife has though! She killed the apple cinammon ones and is working on the berries. Anyways, the point is I noticed my behavior after I got home. I found that if I eat a light lunch I am starving by the time I get home at 7pm.  So I started eating a little heavier lunch and asking the wife to make dinner a little earlier or I start making it right when I get home.  After that I've been getting on the computer, instead of the tv, and occupying my hands. 

I've also fallen in love with whole grain products. I used to hate them but now it makes me feel good about myself to eat them so I'm loving it.  I love whole wheat wraps! I'll have to try the SB ones.

You said:  I don't know if you can ever change the brain of an overweight person.  I say:  YES, YES, you can.  It may take forever, but it happens.  It happened to me, it has happened or is in the process of happening to many of us here.  Very simply stated:   the more low nutritive things you eat, the more you crave them.  When i decided to make sure i eat the following every day: dark leafy greens at least once daily 3-4 more servings of other veggies,  at least a piece of fruit, maybe 2 lean protein, up to 120 g daily 2 servings of low fat dairy  As whole grain as I can, keep that down to 1-3 servings daily When I do that, I seriously DO NOT want chips, cakes, candy, cookies.  I don't - I do not like how they make me feel. On days when that's is all I have eaten, like hanging out at the lake or something, I cannot stop eating that crap. My DH drags home HUGE bags of chips..a trigger food for me, too.   I eat them, about once a week, always WITH meals - never, ever as a snack - WAY too dangerous.   I get the bag out, remove one serving, plut it in a tiny bowl and eat that.  Once in a while, I go get another serving, but only 1-2, not the 5-6 servings i have been known to eat! I am more of the mind you have to WANT to change the habit, then try all kinds of ways to do that.  Remember:  it's only a bag of chips...YOU are mistress of your own destiny.