Oh Mother...... Geesh!!

Hello Gael.... I do plan to drop back from shopping with her until we have the chance to talk....  We definitely need some ground rules..

Diva, That was so hurtful of your mom to say.  I do have a question...was she like this before she lost weight?  Did she make such mean comments?  You definitely need to sit her down and talk this out.  Ignoring it won't make it go away and many times people you love don't realize how hurtful their comments can be.  I had a similar problem with my dad making snide comments about my weight and in front of his then new girlfriend.  I nipped it in the bud by asking him to walk me outside when I was leaving and proceeded to tell him what he said was extremely hurtful.  I also laid down the boundaries and said if you can't be supportive and not put me down, then I will just need to back away from the relationship. It wasn't easy to say any of that to him as he was verbally abusive my whole life but I did it.  AND, I'm happy I did.  I don't deserve to have someone, especially a family member, try and strip my self esteem and neither do you. Melinda

Hi Melinda....    My mom has ALWAYS been supportive.. now that she got her skinny on... she is just trippin..  Now check this... my mom never crosses her legs... but when she is out with me... she makes a production about crossing her legs.... now I can cross mine (although I will not stay in the position long) .... I do not underrstand... I am happy for her.. I really am... but she has changed behind it...  She should feel good about herself, but not to the point where she is downing me...  I believe the concensus is to sit "Miss I am too Sexy" down and let her know how I am feeling...  She is still out of town... so I have some time to prepare... and pray about the situation... because the way I feel I could go left on her and forget she is my mother.... so I really need to prepare to address tje issue and that remember this woman brought life to me.

Hey Diva, Hopefully once you sit her down and talk to her about this she'll see how mean she's been to you.  Thank goodness she is out of town.  This way you can prepare how you want to talk to her.   You will find the right words to say and hopefully your mom will receive them and see what is going on. It sounds like her weight loss has gone to her head and not in a good way.  It's great she lost the weight, but that doesn't mean she should be rude to you.  Since you said she was always supportive, their is great hope she will come around.  Just remember to set some boundaries up with her for awhile.

Diva, Glad to be of service. OMG -- I am probably smaller than most women in my circle now (my DM is no longer living) and I would never call out another female on being bigger than me!  As we all know, things can change in a heartbeat!  In fact, I am going to be around some ladies on Sunday wearing some new capris -- I am hoping no one asks the size, cuz a sister ain't lying! A lot of the ladies here have given some good counsel, so I won't reinvent the wheel, but I think it's important to remember that each of us has our own journey to consider, and you must think on where you want your to take you.  Chances are you are probably not the only person getting this treatment, and it's only a matter of time before somebody cuts MamaDiva down!  Others will observe and remember this behavior, and if it isn't abated soon, Mama could end up fly and lonely. You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar, I always say.  Best wishes in your journey!

Thank you sooooooo much.... I was just in Jersey/Philly over the weekend.... My G-pop (Grandfather) told me I was beautiful the way I was and not to change..  Bless his big heart.. he is 83....  I have been holding on to his comment to make me feel better...   At our reunion we were looking at pictures and MamaDiva was BigMamaDiva in some of those photos.... I do not wish wish her to back track... but I just want her to remember how she felt at that time... and think about how she is making me feel too....   Girl... you rock your Capris.. and IF they ask what size you reply "One that fits me!!"