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alevans4
on 5/21/07 2:33 am

Why are you trying to start a "diet"?   Instead, try starting a new habit like, tomorrow I will eat a fruit for lunch.  The next day, eat a fruit for lunch and drink water or tea with dinner.  Do those two things until they seem more natural to you.   It's alot easier to eat a fruit each day than it is to change your entire eating pattern from one day to the next.  Once you are in the habit of eating a fruit each day, start working on the next change that will bring you closer to the healthier diet you want to achieve.  

Bert Evans
514/419/225


andy113
on 5/21/07 3:43 am - Non-Op, SC
thanks for your support. i am not trying to diet at all and am a full supporter of lifestyle change. i eat tons of fruit and veggies everyday. my problem is (and appears it always will be) is eating at night after dinner. not even on fun bad-for-you stuff but on healthy stupid things like oatmeal and 100 calorie packs.
Heather K.
on 5/21/07 2:43 am - HI
I can definitely empathize with you this week. I've been exercising like crazy and sticking to my diet and only "cheated" 1 day this week, but still stayed under 1800 calories and I got on the scale this morning and it said I've gained a couple of pounds!!!!  I wanted to throw my scale out the window!  Hopefully this week is better for the both of us!
Donnamarie
on 5/21/07 2:51 am - NY

Hey Andrea,

I wish I could tell you that I had NO idea what you are talking about.  Sadly, I can't.  I feel the same way, every single day I get up and say "today I won't eat that damned cookie."

You know what though, Andrea, we have to STOP being so hard on ourselves.  I do what I have to do each and every day to maintain my weight, yet there are those times when I eat things that I know I don't need to be eating.  HOWEVER, there are those million times where I want to eat something I shouldn't eat and I win the battle.  So I'd rather look at all the battles I win instead of the few I lose.   I picked up a book this weekend called "The 7 day low-carb rescue and recovery plan."  Being a harcore low-carb dieter I have found myself occassionally slipping off the wagon.  The book is designed for those that have fallen completely off of the wagon but I am gleaning good tips from it and learning things that I didn't know before, even after almost 2 years of doing this! Today I am back on track.  Tomorrow I may slip, but Wednesday I will be back on track again.  Celebrate the big victories and don't beat yourself up over the small ones!

Donna

"Accountability first to yourself, then nobody else matters"

        
andy113
on 5/21/07 3:51 am - Non-Op, SC

i know, i know, too hard on myself, give myself a break, give myself some credit....i'm a freaking therapist and i can't even make myself do the stuff i tell my clients to do!! to everyone -

thanks for all your positive and supportive feedback. things have just been so extraordinary lately with car accident, ending of school, ending of my job, getting ready to move, taking trips, impending surgery etc etc. i hate to put so much responsibility on the accident, but honestly it really has caused me so much stress between dealing with my insurance, rental car, hospital bills, going to court (my case was dismissed thank god), going to chiropractor (i'm late for an appointment right now) etc. i am still working out everyday, have my trainer twice a week and eat very sensible meals. my problem is still night eating and a lot of celebratory going out/treats (see the ending of job/school bit above). today - egg sub omelette w/strawberries, boca burger, 100 cal popcorn, strawberries, probably stir fry for dinner. my plan is to go to the library after dinner to get some work done and avoid eating - at least until library closes at 10 pm - i am supposed to be working on my dissertation, which is ironically, on binge eating. i think that's why i'm avoiding it like the plague - its too close to whats going on with me right now. anyway, off to chiropractor. check in again later. andrea

BFrench
on 5/22/07 1:24 am
How far along are you on your dissertation?  I do admire you Andrea, girl. You do realize that most people who are not eating really bad stuff and are still exercising as much as you are according to this post, would not consider themselves to be out of control.  It's amazing how feelings are so subjective.  You are feeling soo bad and yet you are probably just as much if not more on track than a lot of people who feel they are doing really good.
andy113
on 5/22/07 3:18 am - Non-Op, SC
andy113
on 5/22/07 3:24 am - Non-Op, SC
On May 22, 2007 at 10:18 AM Pacific Time, andy113 wrote:

yes i do realize that i have pretty high standards for what doing "well" means. i just don't want to be one of those people who wakes up one day and has gained 30 lbs and claims to be unaware that it was happening. i am hypervigilant. i know i have a lot of perfectionistic tendancies. i also feel a lot of pressure from external things - like my diet program that has me featured as a "success story" on their website and has a magazine article about me framed on the wall. its also hard because if you are not working out or eating cake you know what you can change to do better - work out more, eat less cake. for me, i can't really work out any more than i already do and it seems like its not enough to keep the weight off. i always snacked a lot throughout my weight loss and it wasn't a problem. now i can't do that. i don't know if its age or body adjustments or what,but i can't  "get away" with that anymore (which makes me sad because i like to snack!).

it is also subjective as well - i don't "feel" good. i don't like the way my clothes are fitting the types of behavior i've been exhibiting around food (like always swinging by the bakery to see what they have or if they have a sample, even though i never buy anything).  anyway, i know i need ot loosen up and take it one minute at a time. this is the ongoing battle that i know i will have ot deal with the rest of my life. this is why maintenance is, in many ways, a lot harder than the weight loss.

somehow my post got deleted....trying again
BFrench
on 5/22/07 6:16 am

OK, Andrea, now you are scaring me.  I have always accepted that whatever I do to take off the weight is what I will have to do to keep off the weight.  And now you are having trouble maintaining your weightloss doing what you did to lose it in the first place?  AAAHHHHH!!!!  I am beginning to really feel your depression.

andy113
on 5/22/07 9:20 am - Non-Op, SC
ahh yes....this is the brilliance of the human body - we adapt. so maybe when i was 270, it was really challenging to do a half hour on the elliptical and maybe i burned like 500 cals. now, half hour is a breeze and i barely sweat. your body becomes more efficient as it adapts to new routines and movements. i'm lucky to have a really great trainer who is constantly changing up my strength training routine, but other than that, i'm pretty stuck cardio-wise. really the only thing i can do that would be challenging me is running, which i was starting to do before my accident. chiropractor says i need to not start running again for awhile. and when i can do it, not to do it on a treadmill because of long term back issues that have been discovered , which make it harder because there has to be nice weather, a safe place to run etc (he says running on treadmills is really bad for everyone). its like you need to constantly stay on top of things, changing things around to keep your body guessing. and i'm just not that imaginative...i like routine.
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