Why is it. . .

that if a man leaves his wife or girlfriend because she gains 100 pounds people say he's a shallow so and so, but if a woman loses 100 pounds and leaves her husband, lots of people applaud her "courage"?  (BTW I am not talking about someone who leaves an abusive relationship.  Anyone who finds the strength to do that is stronger than steel.)

I'm not sure I would applaud, I'd say she was building a hot rod and is now looking for a race track! LOL.   Once in a while, women marry a man feeling she has to settle for him, or anyone who looks at her twice.  Then if she got an ego boost when she lost weight, there ya go! I guess that could be mistaken as courage, but more like a new toy to flaunt. Hopefully she did her inside work while she lost that weight. If I left a man cuz he gained 100#, it would not be cuz he looked bad, for me it might get old to watch him destroy himself. My DH and I have talked about that.  He married me while I was pretty chubby, and now HE is the one gaining. I could care less about the looks angle, (he looks hot to me!) but as has been said, I would not want to see him going for it, getting even fatter.  (he does not, btw, he tries)  I think it could turn into a loss of respect. I would wonder why he did not care what I thought of takin gbetter care of himslef.

That's pretty much what I thought too, but by the looks of the responses, I was the only one.  Either that or else  other people who felt the same as me just didn't post. I suppose that could be the same reasoning guys use for leaving women who gain a lot of weight, but I know they just get accused of being shallow.