Did anyone see Dr Phil yesterday???

Hi all, I was watching Dr Phil yesterday and it was another part of Man Camp series. Anyway, one of the men 's mother was there because she wasn't getting along with him or his wife. She was basically estranged from them. So, the guy, who is obviously the type to hold things in, was telling his mother his feelings about her and her lack of involvement growing up. So, he goes on to say that he was ashamed of her growing up cause she was fat and all the other moms were skinny You can tell on her face that she was hurt to hear him say that. Now my question is...Do you think that was appopiate to say to her?? I mean Man camp is about repairing your relationship with your wife and being a better man and husband. I must admit, it struck a nerve in me. ANyway, just wanted to see if anyone else felt like I did or if I'm being overly dramatic lol. Be Blessed

I did see that! I think under the cir****tances, yes, it was appropriate. They brushed right on by it, i think. From what I recall, what he said was she was pretty insecure about her weight, too. That poor self image may have been one aspect of how her parenting went sour, i.e., he was always trying to be too careful about her feelings. I have a similar issue with my mother - only it isn't about being fat. She is, to put it bluntly, a slob about her appearance. And she suffers from severe depression, but knows so much more than doctors do and won't get help. So, we are left to deal with her. Lately, now my mom says what you see is what you get...and it ain't much. I just wish she gave a damn, that's all. I'm embarrassed but at my age, it doesn't matter too much. I can understand why you'd be upset. Learn from this, and make sure you don't let your overweight be a reason to not be proud of who you are and allow your child to see hwo hard you work at it! I think that was the "real" issue with that lady - she was so ashamed of herself!

I didn't see that episode, so I don't know the context in which it was said, but just on the words alone, I'd have to say that was VERY inappropriate. The woman may not have had positive parenting skills, but to totally blame it on her being fat is incredibly insensitive.  Since I had my quintuple bypass on Dec. 20th I've changed my diet--eating a low fat, low sodium diet and making much better food choices, and I'm also working to do the same to the diets of my wife and two children. It's been a bit of a struggle with our oldest son, since he still wants mac and cheese, happy meals, and all that stuff that's so bad for you most of the time, but he's coming around. Last week he actually ate the peas we had for dinner, and he noticed that I've lost about 15 pounds since my surgery, so maybe there's a light at the end of the tunnel with him.  I want to lose the weight for my own reasons, but one of them is to demonstrate the fact that I care for my kids and I want to be around to watch them grow up and get married someday. I only hope that Dr. Phil guest can turn over a new leaf and maybe be a little more forgiving for his mother's shortcomings.