Need Help for a NEWBI

Hi all I am new to this board and hope someone can help me. I am 44 weigh 196lbs I need to loose 60lbs but would be so happy with at least 40. I am so not motivated and i'm so so lazy I even joined a gym and havn't even gone because of my lazyness. I wish i can break out of this, its just getting worse and worse and my belly getting bigger and bigger i look like i'm 5 month pregnant OMG. I buy healty food with the intention of starting my diet and it only all goes to waste I never end up doing it or even starting it I"M SO NOT CONSISTANT.....How can i start getting out of this bubble does anyone out there have a diet, weightloss program that is effective? other than watching what you eat we all know that but I need help in following one and seeing results...as you can read from my post i'm desperate....Peace, Love and Happiness to all.

Thanks for your feedback I truly want to get out of this black hole i'm in I know I have but I just can't seem to get motivated..I don't like to cook my meals, i don't have time to plan or write journals, I don't even want to think of what I have to eat ..i just want to have it right in front of me....i think the best thing for me might be Jenny Craig or on a Protein Diet simple and fast...again the magic word is can I be CONSISTANT!!! Thank You and God Bless

Boy, I hate to cook, too, but I LOVE to eat. I had to learn to cook "real" food & eat proper portions. That was a huge deal here because I can eat an entire casserole dish of mac & cheese all by myself. As far as not having time...I hear that a lot. You have to MAKE the time (didn't mean to shout but I couldn't find italics to emphasize that). Do you have time to watch a certain TV program, talk on the phone to friends or family, etc? You make time to do those things so you also have to make time to take care of yourself. No one can do it for you. I'm not being mean, I'm being a realist. You need to make changes that you can live with for a lifetime & stick to them but that change has to come from you. Jenny Craig, protein diets, etc., IMO are short term. Will you eat Jenny Craig for the rest of your life? Will you eat it for a year, lose 100 lbs, go off it, & regain the weight because you didn't learn proper habits instead? Again, I'm not flaming, just being realistic. Good luck, Juli

Woops! I meant 60 lbs, not 100. Sorry!

Oh i appreciate your honesty and also your realistism..and you are so so right i just can't seem to get motivated...i just ate a chocolate bar looked at it and said what the hell i want to eat it..then soon after I'm like what did i just do i can't believe myself its like another woman inside of me..i am a GEMINI..hahahah I will try my bes to focus more starting MONDAY...i say monday because I am realistic and I know for a fact that there is NO WAY i will start a diet or watch what I eat on weekends..so starting Monday thru Friday will be a start first for me then I will work into the weekends but first thing is first one step at at time...thanks for your support.. God Bless You

Hi Jeanette........welcome - I also should lose about 60lbs, but would be thrilled with 40. And, just like you, I joined the YMCA, and I don't really go. I said this year is really going to be it for me, but have yet to start. I should at least WALK for about 20 minutes, but some days I do, and some days I don't. My eating is still out of control, but waiting to go to the Doctors next week and get my "wake up call." As for the exercising, maybe try making plans with someone (so you HAVE to go.) If money is no issue for you, arrange to meet a personal trainer (some gyms give you the first one for free.) At least it'll get you there. That is really what I need to do now for myself. I have to get there, I really have to GO - I must start moving my body. Good luck and be kind to yourself (leave little reminders around the house for yourself.) **You should see the cute new shower curtain I just found - it has cute little sayings like "I'm beautiful" " I"m cute" "I'm so clean" "Its all about ME" etc.... very positive.....and fun. Don't give up Jeanette, the people here on this Messageboard are very supportive. Keep coming back. Good luck. Ciao