Weekly Weigh-In...

I know I've been absent since my last post about reaching the Century mark... as usual, we typically "hide" from these types of support groups when things aren't going well.... right??? Well... once I hit -101 lbs, my lovely FH and I went out to dinner. After a few drinks GUESS what he said to me?????? He said: "You've lost ALOT of weight since we've been together haven't you..." Me: "Uh, yeah... you noticed?" Him: "Oh yeah... I've DEFINATELY noticed... how much have you lost??" Which I told him, blah blah blah, then he goes: "Well... I don't want you to lose anymore weight. You really can't lose much more. And don't worry, if you burn everything off during the day, I'll cook pasta and ravioli's for supper so you put it back on..." Ya know.... I love him dearly, but that is CRAP! So he's been pressuring me big time to make not-the-best food choices, pushing me to eat MORE of everything.... my portion sizes have almost doubled in the last three weeks and it SUCKS. I've put 6lbs back on. SIX. I'm very angry... and I'm just going to go back to basics on Monday, regardless of what he thinks. How dare he try and SABBOTAGE my efforts?? I'm furious. How do you folks deal with changing your lifestyle, when your "better half" has never had to worry about the same issues???? He's 6'2" and 190lbs -- size 34 waist. He's NEVER had these issues... and he's NOT sympathetic with mine anymore. It's like he thinks that since most of my weight is gone, so are my problems with food. GUESS what, it's not. the problems are ALWAYS going to be around. I think I'm going to have to go see a food psychiatrist REALLY soon.... otherwise I fear that I'm going to gain everything back and then some... I'm deathly afraid of that... but at the same time, I'm deathly afraid of people telling me that I look "sick"... and I think my anxiety about it, is taking over and prohibiting me from being strong and being in the right mind set.... SORRY guys just had to vent. You've all been so supportive throughout this entire journey... *hugs* CJ 250/155/140 +6 lbs from last weigh-in.... ugggggggggh

i totally feel you here - food and relationships can be soooooooooo complicated. i recently went out with a guy who had gastric bypass. we initially met on jdate but then he contacted me through here about my plastic surgeon. anywayi've been talking to him about PS stuff for like 6 months. long story short, i finally met up with him last weekend and while he was nice, i just don't think i can handle getting into another relaitonship with someone who also has food issues. its just a bad dynamic to be in. so you can't win - bad if they have food issues, bad if they don't and have no sensitivity to food issues. how long have you been with this guy? what does FH stand for? guys seem to feel threatened when women change their looks. its more revealing of his insecurity - you can't let that sabotage you. i guess the other hand is, how do you feel about your size? happy at 155? where did your goal of 140 come from? bottom line if you're doing this for yourself, your health and need to keep strong boundaries in order to keep working toward your goal. i am doing terrible lately. don't know why. same old story - eat fine all day then just snack on stupid stuff all night. i'm very pissed off at myself and no one else to blame. i'm so pissed off. i need to get with the program as this is getting rediculous.

Hi JACK !!! You sound like me Andrea !!! I have been eating too much junk lately !!! I started a protein program today 7 days......... My YMCA was closed due to relocation and reopening on Monday. So it is back to serious business for me too. Have a nice weekend everyone !!!!!!! Phyllis..............