Hi! I'm new here!

I just got registered today and wanted to reply to this particular forum. I am a 50 year old married woman with two children ages 22 and 24 and two beautiful granddaughters ages 5 and 4. I have been dealing with my weight since I was small child. I was called names and ostracized from day one. The more I felt badly about myself the more I turned to food for comfort. My mother was sick and not there emotionally for me as a tween and I turned again to the one thing I knew would give me comfort--food. My mother also used to tell me that she would make me thin one way or the other. Well, I was more and more determined to prove her wrong and look at me now. I weigh in at 306 and I am 5 foot 7 inches tall. I have had knee reconstruction and both rotator cuffs repaired. Now I am dealing with leg pain with no diagnosed origin and more arthritis than I can think about. I really am tired of living in this fat body and I am constantly thinking that I should go on YET another diet. I tried Weigh****chers years ago and was doing well until I got pregnant with my daughter. I just got so discouraged, I never went back. I have looked in gastric bypass, but I really do not know if I am ready to sacrifice what they have to sacrifice. I know I need to lose atleast 100 pounds, but I cannot see doing it that way. However, my health is suffering and I need to get off my big ol' butt and do something. I hope that I can bolster some support from others like myself and find a way to start a life change that I will stay with and lose this weight. I have tried and failed so many times and I agree with one person who said you have to deal with the emotional issues even if you have gastric bypass or you will never really succeed. I am a Christian and God and I have talked about this many times. I know He loves me and will provide the resources for me. I just need some folks who live with these same struggles and understand how difficult living obese is for us. Thanks for listening. God Bless.

Hi, I just registered today also and Im new. I was all prepared and ready to chjange my life and teh drs wont do teh surgery They say teh BMI is way too high an dthey wont do teh surgery till it goes down and they wnat me to do their liquid diet.. Ive never done that one but maybe it is easier becasue you have no food choices to make.. But our insurance wont cover anything an dthe liquid diet is 100 a week and teh bypass about 30,000 My dad said he would help but taht is soooo much but if I dont do something I wont be around long Is anyone here on teh liquid I also am a binge etaer and teh counseler called me back because when they reviewed me the others didnt want to take me cuz of teh binge eating My eating is 95% emotional but I didnt tell the m that.. The Dr also said tgere is a new technique where they just take teh stomach out so there is less chnace they would have to go back in and thats what he would want to do Scary.. My son said I shoudl go back to weigh****chers cuz that onle like 50 a month coures with teh liquid you dont buy foos Anyway Id liek to make soem frineds and Id liek to know more about teh liquid diest.. bobbie

Janie, Read my profile. I was set up and ready to go. My family was at first for it...then expressed that they,after reading and research, didnt want me to do it. They would have supported any decision I made but I decided to try and work it off the old fashioned way once agian. My heaviest was 265-ish...When I started my WLS quest I was 251....Since November I have lost 36 lbs. Through Diet and exercise. Honestly I can say that there are days I regret not having the surgery. But mostly I am glad I decided not too. Its not easy either way. With surgery you have a drastic change that once you decide to go through with you are stuck with. Without you have to make mental changes and attitude adjuments. Working on mental stregnth(which I dont have all the time) Both require physical activites. This site is 99% pro surgery. I believe that 80% of the people really need it. 20% well not so much. My reasons were for vanity. I had only minor complications realated to my weight. But enough to have insurance pay for it. But I didnt want to have to pay for it the rest of my life. In 2 years, I might be on that table. BUT I hope God willing I am in a dressing room in my goal of a size 12 instead. Good luck and remember Influence yourself . Its your decision. Love CharleneT

Hi Janie, I am 58 yrs young, divorced, no children. I have been researching this RNY surgery since April and am doing a six month nurtritionist/MD supervised DIET required by insurance. I too am hoping I can get a handle on my eating and lose enough to give me hope I can do it without surgery. I too eat because I can and I feel like it is absolutely crazy to do so. The first week of the diet I ate so much ice cream it made me sick. My MD of twenty years told me in March I had to have surgery due to my comorbidities, having been over 300# for the better part of 20 years. I have met with the surgeon, had the sleep study, the psychological and nutritionist screening to confirm I am a candidate. I was very honest about my emotional eating in these meetings, but they still approved me. The psychologist warned me that I am a food addict and would have to watch for other addictions post op, like alcohol, smoking, etc. I just wanted to write and say we are experiencing some of the same things. Karen