I have a date!!

Hey everyone My time has finally come. The lady at my surgeons office called asking me to pick the date I want to do surgery. I just couldn't do it, I waited almost one year to finally get to this point and I knew all along it is going to happen, but now I am getting cold feet.

Congrats!!! Girl, u better hurry up and a pick a day. Just kidding, I know how its like to have cold feet, If I could have run out of the OR, I probably would have. Good Luck, and take care! Aliya

Hey big, great for you! I`m so excited for you. You forgot to let us know when the date is . Good luck!!

Hey BiGCHyck dont be scared just remember why you are doing it...and be more scared of what life could be like if you didnt have other options to choose from. Stop thinking of all the negative things that could happen and think of all the positive things that are to come.....now go call your doc...and pick a date. Dont forget to come back and tell us . Cograts on overcoming the battle. Tyshea 315/167/150

BiGCHyck I just had to come back after reading your profile, that first paragraph should be the main reason why you should be running to that phone and get your much deserved date, DO you really want to live the rest of your life feeling like that, your still young..I know I didnt. Here It is.... "I am 25 years old, 298 pounds, 5'3" with a BMI of 52.1 and I am anxiously awaiting my re-birth. Like most people on this website, I have been struggling with my weight for as long as I can remeber. In my experience, being overweight has entirely defined who I am. My self concept and shyness has been a big stumbling block between who I am now and the person I know is deep down waiting to unveil. I want out of this prison of a body. I want to be able to do simple things, tying my lace without working up a sweat, crossing my legs, sit in regular chairs without my butt hanging off or being worried that I might break it, not being so self conscious all the time. Its hard to stay positive and confident when everyone and everything around says "you don't belong". My health is deteriorating and I am tired of sitting on the sideline watching my life pass me by. The dark cloud of obesity has completely overwhelmed and suffocated all the joy and happiness in my life. I want to participate in life, I am tired of longing for happiness and meaning." NOW YOU WROTE THAT...DO YOU REALLY WANT TO CONTINUE YOUR LIFE LIKE THAT...GOODLUCK TO YOU. If you ever want to talk just email me I am always available...and dont think i'm trying to be hard on you becuase I am not I just want you to realize that life could be better than that...and it will be.....I can guarantee you that. Tyshea 315/167/150

Hi Tyshea, Thanks for those words of encouragement. I have lived my entire life tired and frustrated and now is my chance to change that. Thank you for your support and soon with alot of tranquilizers and anti-aniexty meds I will be on the loser bench. Aliya, the thought of being wheeled in to the OR will haunt me up until the very day. I am having nightmares

Hi BiGCHyck... Welcome ! Girl, dont be scared. It is something that will change your life. I mean in a GOOD way. When I first began to try to have surgery, 5 years ago, I was 660 pounds. I am six foot two, and I never went out. I couldnt go up any stairs, I couldnt drive a regular car (I drove a van with my left foot...sidesaddle). I couldnt sit in a theater seat. I didnt have nearly any friends... and I was so lonely I could hurl. :/ Now, my whole outlook has changed. I have lost 210 pounds in 15 months, I finally found a wonderful woman (from the Obesity help Singles message board doncha know) I can do a great many things, I was married last year, I am in Graduate school, I recently got a certificate to substitute teach here in Ocean County (quick hide your kids, its Mr S :P) Please dont be scared. We have a wonderful group that meets in Toms River on one Friday each month, (and we are expanding to a day in mid month in Lakewood, on a Thursday , too). That might be a long ways, but lots (and I mean like ... quite a few) of us are focused on encouraging people... because each of us have BEEN there... ya know? Give a holler if you would like a telephone buddy, or someone to talk to. I would love to encourage you, or if you would prefer I have a list of several ladies in our group who would cheerfully give you a telephone call. Not only that, but feel free to ask questions, the only question that is silly is one you dont ask : P Be encouraged, your posts remind me of when I first came to Obesity Help in October 2004, scared, alone, and very nervous. YOU WILL TRIUMPH OVER THIS.... I send you all the positive thoughts and good prayers. Take a deep breath.. look at your schedule, consider recovery time and what would work best with family, job, school, and your own preferrences, then TAKE the plunge. Most of all.. schedule a date and time for your surgery that works for YOU : )) Come back here and post, and post and ask questions. Tell us more about yourself, and let us know how your doing.. okay? We will keep you in our prayers : ) Hang in there Hugs Sandi's Timmy..aka Timmy Ray : ))

Hi Sandi thanks so much for your wonderful words of encouragement and support. This is really a very difficult time for me. I try to stay positive and upbeat but its really hard. I should be happy now that I finally have the chance to change my life from this miserable unhealthy life. Instead I am more depressed than ever. Everytime I get to the point where I am ready to just back out and settle for being fat and miserable I come here and get warm words of encourangement. I greatly appreciate every word of encouragement that I have gotten from you and all those who have taken the time out of their busy lives to offer support. Congratulations on your weightloss and your new found happiness. I will definately keep you posted. Thank you