Does anyone have any suggestions?

I have been feeling very depressed and I don't know what to do. I know that I should be happy for losing so much weight but all I've been lately is depressed. I sometimes feel that I have been left out there to fend for myself because I no longer have my doctor because she is not in Jersey City anymore. She has turned everything over to my primary doctor who says that hae knows nothing about this surgery. There have been so many changes in my life as a result of the surgery in such a short amount of time that I think that I am having a hard time dealing with it. You go from viewing yourself in one way all of you life and then all of a sudden you are getting attention for the changes in your body for different reasons. Although I know that there is a change in me in my mind I still sometimes see that extremely overweight person that I was 8 short months ago, when I see a seat on the train between two people I will still stand up because I don't think that I can fit. When the smallest thing happens in my family it hits me harder than it should, sleep is my best friend and even that is not restful. I know that I am not getting enough vitamins because I skip them sometimes because they make my stomach hurt maybe that has alot to do with how I am feeling.

Hey Deidre, I too battle depression, and just recently did I come out of about a 2 month funk. I was completely overwhelmed by life, not makign healthy choices, and just feeling bad. I was also very angry...at the world. And honestly about 2 weeks ago, I was watching a television evangelist, and she said some things that made me just let go, and let GOD. I'm not trying to be preachy, I just want to share. Don't forget, our bodies are still undergoing hormonal changes, and depression can sometimes be expected. Although I haven't been in a while, therapy has worked for me in the past. Hang in there, and take care. Aliya

Thank you for the words of wisdom and I don't think that you were being preachy. Because I believe that God can fix all things and he is the one that has the answers to all of my questions. I need to stop and pray about this and leave it in his hands because he can handle it much better than I can. Thank you again for your !!!!!!

First and foremost, you've got to get your vitamins in. That you can't skimp on. I take mine with meals and find that the chewables work best, like viactive. Don't make me queasy. Second. Talk to your primary. You might need an antidepressent. I've been on them for years, they work and they're nothing to be ashamed of. Third, do you attend a support group? I found it so very helpful to be able to sit and talk with people who were going thru the same thing I was. To be able to compare notes and experiences. Love yourself, take care of yourself. You can do this!

I am going to speak to my primary doc on wednesday when I go about this because it seems to be getting worse, before it was every once in a while that I would get depressed but now it is all the time. And to answer your question about a group, no I don't have a support group. I don't even know where to find one because as I said my doctor is no longer in Jersey City and I'm on my own. Sometime I feel completely lost because there is no one there to help me when things get really bad. That is why I'm glad that there is this website so that nice people like you can help me through some of the rough patches. Thank You So Much!!!!!!!!

Hey deidre, sounds like you are very depressed and as a result it sounds to me like you are isolating yourself which is common in depression . With that said please don`t take this lightly it will beat you if you let it.Also one small step with big results is to get into a support group.Even though your doctor is gone she likely would not have been seeing you still unless there was a problem with your surgery.She would have referred you to a support group.They are there for the asking. Just post what area you are in and ask. But I know the first step during depression is the hardest because you`re always tired and tomorrow always seems to be a better time.Make yourself do it and most importantly make an appointment with your primary and stick to it.

Hi Deidre, There is a support group at Saint Barnabas Ambitatory which meetings for patients (up to 1 year post-op) on 1st Wednesday of every month from 6:00 - 7:30 p.m. and for at least one year post op) meeting every 2nd or 3rd Thursday of every month same time. Hang in there - I'm am less than 3 months post-op and feel like a million as I realize that my health has been improved by this surgery and years added to life. There are a lot of support out as this is an excellent means of communication as a group.

Hi. I am very new at this, but there is also a support group at Mountainside Hospital in Montclair - a bit closer than St. Barnabas. It meets on Wed. nights once a month. The next meeting is on April 19 at 6:30. It is an ongoing group... you can go for the rest of your life if you like. Did you go to your primary? Did you get a satisfactory response re: your depression?