With Love from MARGIE ... Mom gone 15 years ago

15 years ago my Mom lost her battle to cancer. She passed away of cervical and ovarian cancer.

I can remember 18 years prior to her passing, she and her (our) Cousin were talking in the dining room, and my Mom mentioning to her how she “wasn’t feeling right down there". Cousin Carol asked my Mom if she has gone to the Doctor to check it out, and my Mom’s reply was “Oh No. I don’t want to hear the “C" word" (for you young ones, the “C" word isn’t what you think – it’s means CANCER).

Well my Mom ignored all the signs. Fast forward about 15-16 years later, and one day I found my Mom “sleeping" in bed, very weak (not like my Mom). For some reason I pulled back the covers to her bed only to find her sleeping in a pool of blood from “the lower area". Of course she was rushed to the Hospital, test were taken – and it was discovered she had cancer of the cervix and uterus. They operated, they said they “got it all out" and she recovered.

A year later she relapsed, and for 2 years she was on/off drugs and eventually chemo. The cancer finally took her life. She was 54. The Doctor told her (and us) that if she had come in 18 years sooner there is a very good chance she could have beaten this and lived longer. As a result, my Mom never got to meet her only Grandchild. And the death of my Mom hit my Dad so hard it eventually killed him too. Not to mention my sister and I, who miss them both (daily)

 Now why am I sending this to you? Not because I want you to feel sorry, or send condolences but because you're special to me, and to remind you of a few things:

 (01) If you don’t feel well, GO SEE A DOCTOR!! I know, we’re all scared what the Doctor may say but early diagnosis is the KEY to BEATING a disease.

 (02) IGNORING IS IGNORANT.  Your body is your best friend. IT won’t lie to you. It will tell you when something isn’t right. Don’t be an ostrich and stick your head in the sand. Listen to your body. Remember, everything in life can be replaced – except YOUR OWN HEALTH/LIFE!!

 (03) NO ONE HAD CONTROL OVER YOUR BODY BUT YOU!! Many state that their family member is “not on board" with their medical decision. WELL GUESS WHAT – only YOU have final say over your own health. NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING ALIVE.

 (04) DEATH IS FINAL – Yes going and having an operation may cause you to be temporarily incapacitated, and it may put a temporary strain on your family. But when you’re dead, the strain and pain on the family is much greater.

If you’d like to honor my Mom’s life, please learn from her mistake, get healthy, and pass this along to anyone you think who will benefit from it. And if you do, tell them it’s a present of love and concern from you, and Margie (my Mom’s name).

{{{{ Hugs Tom }}}}

Total coincidence but yesterday I had my annual gyno visit.
And the mammogram is scheduled...  All my bits and pieces are being checked!
I hope the men remember to bend over and cough!

It's unfortunate you have this commentary because of personal experience. Of course, in true Tom fashion, you pass it on with the hope of helping even just one person. We'd expect nothing less from you, and, I'm sure your mom is proud of you for doing so!

{{{{ MORE Hugs Tom }}}}

Thanks for checking up on your New Jersey girls!!!!

Thanks for your concern Tom!! Hugs to you!
Fran :)

I know what you are talking about. As I sit here crying over my husband death. Maybe if he had gone to the doctor he would be with me today. He use to tease me about going to the doctors all the time. I wish he went to the doctors before it was to late. Listen to your body. You may be saving your life.

Thank u for sharing ur experience with us.  I do want 2 send my condolences to u & ur family!!!
 
U r right about the body letting us know when something is not right. I have been having some pain around my stomach and I just told my doc.  He ordered an abdomianl sonogram, but b4 I spoke 2 him, I was ignoring it.  I thought it would just go away, but after 2 weeks I decided to tell my doc.