6 months in limbo

Hi There,

I really get what you're saying, and where you are at emotionally.

Because I've been waffling about whether or not to do surgery, I was kind of relieved at the idea of the 6-month wait / supervised weight-loss plan.  I just had my third visit with my doctor, and I've lost a few lbs. along the way, even though I've had some ups and downs sticking to my eating plan.

I keep telling myself that if I can't stick to a plan now, what will happen after surgery, when misery and illness will result from noncompliance?  Answer:  misery and illness!

So anyway, for 2 meals a day, I'm trying to eat like a post-surgical patient.  I completely agree with the person who said that now is the time to do research and plan how we're going to successfully use the surgical tool to get where we need to be.

Everything will work out for the best, welcome to the boat, we're all in the same one (must be the size of a cruise ship!).  Now all we have to do is agree which direction in which to paddle.

Be Well!

Elizabeth

Try to think of the 6 month wait as an active, rather than passive, time.  Its not a time to distract yourself from the impending surgery, but an opportunity to prepare for it.

Any surgery you choose will require attention, diligence, and work. It will require a mindfulness of your body, your health, and your eating that you can start right now. Yes, some of the surgeries will "deter" you from eating certain things because that behaviour will result in pain. Not all of them do, so you might want to find your motivation elsewhere. (For example, I had RNY, and I don't dump.)

I also had a terrible life-long  battle with my weight. I was totally ready for that to be done, and I was prepared to do anything to make it happen. I found the recovery was easier than I had expected, (despite a post-surgical complication and two surgeries within 36 hours.) I have lost 113 lbs in 18 months, and I feel great. I don't regret what I did for a moment, but it did take a few months to adapt to my new digestive system and feel "normal." I have learned so much about myself, and my body, and I've learned to have patience!

Wishing you all the best,
big_Ideas

Hi,

I was told that the BMI when on your first visit is the one that counts,  I was told not to worry if my BMI dropped below the required insurance company limit, that it didn't matter.

I ended up above the limit though.

I found out last week that my insurance requires 6 month supervised diet too!  I am disappointed.  I have been obsese with all the problems that go with it for 13 years.  I don't need another 6 months.  I am ready for the surgery.  I am going Thursday to the surgeon's office for all the beginning evaluations.  Friday I will see my PCP for my first visit for the 6 month diet.  I am disappointed that I will not to be able to have the surgery before Christmas.  It will be spring now!  I understand how you feel.  I look forward to my appointment on Thursday to find out about everything.