I think I need a revision, advice needed.

Hello everyone, My name is Ryann. I am 31 and have 4 children. In 2005 I had an open Roux-en-y and I am not happy. I was 301lbs and my weight come of VERY slow, I was doing everything I was told and afte 1 year I had only lost 83 lbs...Today I am about 265 lbs after about a year and a half post op the weight kept creeping up no matter what I did. I asked my surgeon and he basically said, oh it will start coming back off and he put me on a pill called Phentermine, and all that did was give my heart palpitations and make me feel like I was on speed or something. Right now I am at miserable, all I want to do is sleep all day and I never want to leave the house. I feel like the biggest failure on the planet. I know MANY people who have had WLS and are not looking great, and here I am the olny person I know who had WLS and is still fat, unhealthy and very depressed. I do not want to go to my surgeon about this, I doubt he would be much help. Any advice or any surgeon refferals that do revisions in the south jersey area? I need help, my kids need thier mom back because I can't do anything fun this summer with them. When I walk or stand for more than like 10 min my right leg from butt to toes hurts really bad and sometimes goes numb, I sweat ALOT especially on my face and get dehydrated fast, My knees hurt, my back hurts, I have heartburn all the time again, I feel like i never get any sleep because I am always exausted. Not a day goes by that I don't feel sore and tired..I feel like a huge failure to my family and myself.

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!!!!!
At the bariatric surgeon conference going on in Texas, a surgeon who did studies on all types of bariatric surgery has written a new paper.  In his study  (I think it was Dr. Roslin) he reports on RNY failures, and how there is a link between an unsuccessful surgery, weight regain, and blood sugars.  Apparently , in SOME people, there is such a surplus of the hormone released that they are incredibly hungry even after surgery, and never lose a 'successful' amount of weight.    As time goes on, and more studies are conducted, especially about lack of losses and regains,  we'll all learn about why some people are so successful and others are not.  You are not a failure....  this was just NOT the best type of surgery for you!    and, unfortunately,  there is not a great way of judging PRIOR to surgery what is or isn't going to work for you.
     As to a revision,  in South Jersey, there is Dr. Greenbaum....   in Northern N J, you are a stones throw away from Manhattan, where there are some of the best bariatric surgeons available.   
    If you sure you want a revision read the revision boards, read about the different surgeries, and figure out what you think you can live with.  I can answer questions about my experiences with the DS, there are a lot of knowledgeable people on the VSG boards, and your original surgeon might be able to offer you some guidance.....   but unless you eat a dozen cupcakes followed by a pint of Ben and Jerry's every day, you are not the failure!
    Mary C