Did anyone hide their WLS from family/friends?

I told my fiance obviuosly but only told a few close friends and my mom I didnt tell my siblings until after because I wanted to make sure I was okay I came through surgery ok........when I did tell my siblings I got mostly negative comments which I was shocked since we are a very close family

Hi Jennifer

Thank You for your response..............I'm close to my siblings also,but I know there will be negative comments not said directly to me, but when I'm not around..(but we know they still love use no matter what)

I told family-parents, siblings, and a few close friends.  I told my two young children that I was having my stomach fixed.  Now I tell them that mom is eating healthy foods.  They are eating much helathier also, less junk in the house. I did not tell people at wor****il recently.  I have now lost over 60 lbs since mid july and people are commenting. so I told a few at work.  They were very kinid about it.  I am a bit reserved I guess.

Hi Laura

Thank you for your  reply.........I will not be tell anyone at work, but maybe in time I will tell family.

Originally I was not planning to tell my family, because lots of my aunts & uncles are older and I wasn't sure what the response would be.  I'm from GA originally, and my family is all still there.  I was pleasantly surprised at how supportive and encouraging they have been.  DH knew, of course (since he paid for all the pre-op testing lol).  Once I told my family I found myself telling anyone who would hold still long enough!  Like Kate & Jacki said, I am just not cut out to be a "secret" type person.  But I do have some members of my family, particularly my siblings, who would not be supportive of my choice.  Looong story short, that basically boils down to petty jealousy on their part.  But I had to do what was right for me, and that's what you have to do as well.  It's hard to put yourself first when you have spent a lifetime of putting other people's needs & feelings ahead of your own.  But I am LEARNING!!   Even if your blood relatives aren't supportive, you will find that your "OH Family" will be very supportive and helpful, they all have been for me.  Good luck on your journey, whatever you decide.

Hi

Thank You........ for your message and yes I must do what is right for me. Most of my siblings live in Ga also. I spoke with one sister and to my surprise she is all for WLS so I explained when I spoke to her about it before she was negative about it she then explain she was just talking about the lap band,because her boss & his wife had it,but it did not work for them,but she now know most people are successful with the lap band Ohhh she is also looking into WLS and we both agree our other siblings do not have to know.

I told people (no one in my husband's family because I don't talk to them, and I refuse to give more to gossip about).  To each, his or her own.

As many of the others have said, I am not a secretive person, either.

Just my two pennies.

Jen

Hi Jennifer W

Every penny count.......Thank You for your message. I did tell one sibling and we both agreed the others do not need to know she is also looking to have WLS.

Jen

I forgot to say Dr.Bertha will be doing my surgery also. I hope to see you at a support group meeting after my surgery early next year.

Belinda

Hi Jenny W

Sorry I called you Jen, in that last post, the person that sent a message before you is Jen,but I will be having my surgery in New Brunswick I see you are in Morristown..I would like to add you to my friend list,but I didnot see your profile.