Did anyone hide their WLS from family/friends?
bgaylz
on 10/16/08 1:49 pm
on 10/16/08 1:49 pm
Hello
Is there anyone out there that didnot tell anyone they had WLS? I talked about it with family and friends,let just say they are against it thank God I didnot tell them I plan to have the lap band.I should be having my surgery Dec or Jan so I will need to tell someone soon becasue I will need a ride to and from the hospital....Help!!!
Is there anyone out there that didnot tell anyone they had WLS? I talked about it with family and friends,let just say they are against it thank God I didnot tell them I plan to have the lap band.I should be having my surgery Dec or Jan so I will need to tell someone soon becasue I will need a ride to and from the hospital....Help!!!
Personally I did not. My husband would not be supportive of my decision (but that is a whole nother discussion - LOL!) I am fortunate to have some wonderful caring friends, 2 who have had a RNY and a lap band respectivly who have been incredibly supportive.
Since I had a lap band, i only needed to have an overnight stay in the hospital. I told my husband that I was going in for minor surgery for a cyst and that I would be home the next day. that was also what I told my children (18 & 12).
I had contemplated just saying that I was going on a biz trip (i travel frequently for work), but was talked out of it in case of god forbid something did happen to me.
I realize that is a personal decision and there may be some people who do not agree/approve of my decision, but you need to do what is best for you in this journey. Is there at least one trusted friend that can take you? If not, take a cab. You have made the decision to have this done - don't let the lack of a ride stop you and if you can't get the support you need from home, then find and attend a support group (I went to my first one on Wed and am glad that I did) and use this board to vent.
Since I had a lap band, i only needed to have an overnight stay in the hospital. I told my husband that I was going in for minor surgery for a cyst and that I would be home the next day. that was also what I told my children (18 & 12).
I had contemplated just saying that I was going on a biz trip (i travel frequently for work), but was talked out of it in case of god forbid something did happen to me.
I realize that is a personal decision and there may be some people who do not agree/approve of my decision, but you need to do what is best for you in this journey. Is there at least one trusted friend that can take you? If not, take a cab. You have made the decision to have this done - don't let the lack of a ride stop you and if you can't get the support you need from home, then find and attend a support group (I went to my first one on Wed and am glad that I did) and use this board to vent.
Whoops, that was supposed to say that i DID NOT tell my family (and most friends)
As a side story, I turned 50 this year and made the decision to live the second half of my life different from the first. I just had my first fill last Thursday. Since my surgery date (9/10), i have lost 18lbs.
I realize that I need to drink more water and increase my protein - I am on stage 3 now and thought I could do without the protein shakes -but was told at support group that sometimes lack of protein will inhibit and even cease weight loss. So back to the Unjury shakes. I am DETERMINED to make this work for the new (and improved!) me.
I was also told that sometimes it takes a few fills for it to "kick in" and registered - that was also a topic of discussion at group. Right now I don't feel "full" per se but then again, since I am not sure what to expect, it is hard to say what is normal, what is best for me, etc.
Hope this helps.....
As a side story, I turned 50 this year and made the decision to live the second half of my life different from the first. I just had my first fill last Thursday. Since my surgery date (9/10), i have lost 18lbs.
I realize that I need to drink more water and increase my protein - I am on stage 3 now and thought I could do without the protein shakes -but was told at support group that sometimes lack of protein will inhibit and even cease weight loss. So back to the Unjury shakes. I am DETERMINED to make this work for the new (and improved!) me.
I was also told that sometimes it takes a few fills for it to "kick in" and registered - that was also a topic of discussion at group. Right now I don't feel "full" per se but then again, since I am not sure what to expect, it is hard to say what is normal, what is best for me, etc.
Hope this helps.....
bgaylz
on 10/17/08 1:27 pm
on 10/17/08 1:27 pm
Hi Anne Prince
Thank you for your response.......I can't believe how negative my friends/family are about WLS like I said before thank God I didn't tell them I was thinking about having it done,but my mind is made up I'm going to do it even if I have to catch a cab. I did talk to a friend in Philly and Atlanta that are all for it.
Thank you for your response.......I can't believe how negative my friends/family are about WLS like I said before thank God I didn't tell them I was thinking about having it done,but my mind is made up I'm going to do it even if I have to catch a cab. I did talk to a friend in Philly and Atlanta that are all for it.
bgaylz
on 10/17/08 1:39 pm
on 10/17/08 1:39 pm
Hi Jacki
Thank you for you response.............maybe in time I will tell my family/friend they are the type of people that will hear something both bad and good,but will only focus on the bad the first person they talk about was Connie Wilson (singer) because most of her weight is back on
Thank you for you response.............maybe in time I will tell my family/friend they are the type of people that will hear something both bad and good,but will only focus on the bad the first person they talk about was Connie Wilson (singer) because most of her weight is back on
From the moment I was approved, I told anyone that would hold still long enough! I told strangers in the store, sales people in Macys, the lady at the DMV counter... you name it, I told them. But, like Jacki said too, I am just not a "secret" person at all.
I always told everyone the SECOND I found out I was pregnant too... that's just me. I have a sister in law, who had a miscarriage at 4 months....... we didn't know until after the fact that she was even pregnant. It's hard to mourn with someone when you didn't even know they were expecting, I didn't even know there was a "baby" until the baby was already gone, it just felt strange to me. But I know everyone is different with those kind of issues. I just always figured (whether it was pregnancy or weight loss surgery) that I would need people's support afterwards, so I might as well share in the joy with them beforehand too. That might not even make sense if you are a personal kind of person, but to me, it's just always how I have felt. It's me. You have to do what is right for you, EVERY situation for every person is unique.
God bless you on this wonderful journey, whether you decide to share or not.
Michelle
I always told everyone the SECOND I found out I was pregnant too... that's just me. I have a sister in law, who had a miscarriage at 4 months....... we didn't know until after the fact that she was even pregnant. It's hard to mourn with someone when you didn't even know they were expecting, I didn't even know there was a "baby" until the baby was already gone, it just felt strange to me. But I know everyone is different with those kind of issues. I just always figured (whether it was pregnancy or weight loss surgery) that I would need people's support afterwards, so I might as well share in the joy with them beforehand too. That might not even make sense if you are a personal kind of person, but to me, it's just always how I have felt. It's me. You have to do what is right for you, EVERY situation for every person is unique.
God bless you on this wonderful journey, whether you decide to share or not.
Michelle
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