DEPRESSED/DISAPPOINTED/SCARED/HELP!!!!!
ISome of you know our financial situation, for those of you who do not here is a quick run down.
I was FIRED from my job in Oct last year due to complications from my surgery/illegal use of my FMLA Time (on their part). I did not sue them because my husband and I worked for the same
company in the same department and I did not want to jepordize our only means of support
My husband was violently ill for a year and half in large part, we thought, because of chronic kidney stones. It turnes out it was misdiagnosed and he had Graves disease(hyperthyroidism) and type 2 diabetes,
which in turn resulted in him being fired in January of this year because he has used all his time including his FMLA and was too sick to work.
He has spent literally 8 hours a day on this stupid computer putting in resumes...no job yet and only 11 weeks left on his unemployment comp
I am awaiting approval on my extension so we are a family of 5, 3 of which are 19, 17, 17 living on a little under 1800 a month
It may sound like a lot to some, but our electric bill alone with all we can do to minimize it is over 500 a month.
We have NO HEALTH INSURANCE AND MEDS BETWEEN ALL ARE OVER 1000 a month.
Somehow we still have to pay all our bills and we are slowly getting to the point where we cannot stay in our home and will have to move in with family.
Anyway, when signing up for school, I was presumtuous and did not take into account that I would be commuting 50 miles a day at 20 miles a gallon plus tolls of 4 dollars a day
That is more than 500 a month so there is no way, given our cir****tances that I can, in good judgement take this on right now. It would be completely financially irresponsible
and that is one area my husband and I are working on desperately. Is to get out of that mindset that we can add this to our lives and God will provide.
I as I am sure with othes struggled greatly with finances my entire life and was never taught how to handle or respect Gods money.
I have come to realize, at the tender age of 40 that it is not blind faith to add bills into my life expecting God to provide,
but to take what we are given or make and life in contentment with what we have. Then and only then can we ever expect to be given
more w/more responsibility.
I feel like an idiot that it has taken me this long to learn this, but on the bright side atleast I am not 65 or 70 learning this too late.
So I am very disappointed that I won't be able to do this and my husband is devestated and is struggleing with guilt and shame
because he feels as though he has bruoght this all on us.
I covet your deep prayers for our family, for employment, health care, housing, food, enough to pay our bills and care for our children. I have two kids graduating from
high school this year and with that brings a lot of expenses.
Anyway, I am so grateful you are all here and that I can turn to you and not food, because 2 years ago I would, whether we had the money or not, run to the store and grab as many
donuts and candy as I could to deal with this.
Please also keep in your prayers every other family in this same situation, because unfortuneately there are millions of us.
I love you all
Trish
I was FIRED from my job in Oct last year due to complications from my surgery/illegal use of my FMLA Time (on their part). I did not sue them because my husband and I worked for the same
company in the same department and I did not want to jepordize our only means of support
My husband was violently ill for a year and half in large part, we thought, because of chronic kidney stones. It turnes out it was misdiagnosed and he had Graves disease(hyperthyroidism) and type 2 diabetes,
which in turn resulted in him being fired in January of this year because he has used all his time including his FMLA and was too sick to work.
He has spent literally 8 hours a day on this stupid computer putting in resumes...no job yet and only 11 weeks left on his unemployment comp
I am awaiting approval on my extension so we are a family of 5, 3 of which are 19, 17, 17 living on a little under 1800 a month
It may sound like a lot to some, but our electric bill alone with all we can do to minimize it is over 500 a month.
We have NO HEALTH INSURANCE AND MEDS BETWEEN ALL ARE OVER 1000 a month.
Somehow we still have to pay all our bills and we are slowly getting to the point where we cannot stay in our home and will have to move in with family.
Anyway, when signing up for school, I was presumtuous and did not take into account that I would be commuting 50 miles a day at 20 miles a gallon plus tolls of 4 dollars a day
That is more than 500 a month so there is no way, given our cir****tances that I can, in good judgement take this on right now. It would be completely financially irresponsible
and that is one area my husband and I are working on desperately. Is to get out of that mindset that we can add this to our lives and God will provide.
I as I am sure with othes struggled greatly with finances my entire life and was never taught how to handle or respect Gods money.
I have come to realize, at the tender age of 40 that it is not blind faith to add bills into my life expecting God to provide,
but to take what we are given or make and life in contentment with what we have. Then and only then can we ever expect to be given
more w/more responsibility.
I feel like an idiot that it has taken me this long to learn this, but on the bright side atleast I am not 65 or 70 learning this too late.
So I am very disappointed that I won't be able to do this and my husband is devestated and is struggleing with guilt and shame
because he feels as though he has bruoght this all on us.
I covet your deep prayers for our family, for employment, health care, housing, food, enough to pay our bills and care for our children. I have two kids graduating from
high school this year and with that brings a lot of expenses.
Anyway, I am so grateful you are all here and that I can turn to you and not food, because 2 years ago I would, whether we had the money or not, run to the store and grab as many
donuts and candy as I could to deal with this.
Please also keep in your prayers every other family in this same situation, because unfortuneately there are millions of us.
I love you all
Trish
Dear Trish,
My prayers go you to you and your family. I've been there, and know what it's like. I also know the Lord doesn't give us more then we can handle.
So put your trust and faith in HIM, and he will guide you (and your family) to the place you're suppose to be in.
My prayers go you to you and your family. I've been there, and know what it's like. I also know the Lord doesn't give us more then we can handle.
So put your trust and faith in HIM, and he will guide you (and your family) to the place you're suppose to be in.
Good Luck on your Journey !!
Tom
“Nothing I will ever eat will give me the feeling I get as when I lose weight” The views expressed are based on my own experiences - and should NOT BE FOLLOWED IN LIEU OF DOCTOR’S ADVICE/INSTRUCTIONS. Only your Doctor knows your condition, and make sure you talk to them before making any changes to your diet
Tom
“Nothing I will ever eat will give me the feeling I get as when I lose weight” The views expressed are based on my own experiences - and should NOT BE FOLLOWED IN LIEU OF DOCTOR’S ADVICE/INSTRUCTIONS. Only your Doctor knows your condition, and make sure you talk to them before making any changes to your diet
Trish,I wish you & your husband all the best in finding a solution.Do the kids work?They seem to all be old enough to help out while times are tough.I have 3 kids 10,10 & almost 9.I work 2 jobs (neither pays great but I need to be home when I can)my hubby has a county job(holding a shovel all day lol)god benifits but crummy pay so he finally went to work at McDonalds 3 weeks ago.I constantly feel like we are drowning & there is noone to help.I pray alot for a solution but also know that while God doesn't give us more then we can handle,there are days I wonder if he thinks I am someone else lol.I also know that while we wait we need to be proactive in staying a float.Hugs & good luck
MeLinda
Goal is 165 or thigh high boots whichever comes first
Thank you all for the wonderful out pouring of encouragement.
Yes all my kids work, my oldest 19 works full time and goes to college online part time and the 17 year old twin, my daughter has a job working 25+hours a week and my son, God willing will have a job tomorrow. They will be seniors in high school so they are very motivated to work, so they can get their permit, (I would not let any of my kids get their permit until they worked for 3 months to prove to us they can pay their insurance because I cannot afford it), then their license and a car. I will not let them drive our one and only car so if they want transportation they have to save up and buy one.
My oldest didn't get her liscense until she was 18, in part I am grateful because what I see is a much more responsible driver at this age. It will probably be the same for the twins.
Please pray hard my husband got a call about a perfect job offer and it is very close. This is like his 5 or 6 time having this happen and I would love nothing more than to see that smile on his face when he gets a job.
Love
Trish
Yes all my kids work, my oldest 19 works full time and goes to college online part time and the 17 year old twin, my daughter has a job working 25+hours a week and my son, God willing will have a job tomorrow. They will be seniors in high school so they are very motivated to work, so they can get their permit, (I would not let any of my kids get their permit until they worked for 3 months to prove to us they can pay their insurance because I cannot afford it), then their license and a car. I will not let them drive our one and only car so if they want transportation they have to save up and buy one.
My oldest didn't get her liscense until she was 18, in part I am grateful because what I see is a much more responsible driver at this age. It will probably be the same for the twins.
Please pray hard my husband got a call about a perfect job offer and it is very close. This is like his 5 or 6 time having this happen and I would love nothing more than to see that smile on his face when he gets a job.
Love
Trish
One thing you can admit is the financial issues have helped you raise your children into decent children... I believe they will be prosperous adults....They already know that if they want something bad enough they have to work hard for it....things will get better....you've been through a lot and from your page I can tell you've came from a long winding journey...but you will not suffer long....things may go bad but they sure do get better..The lord has something in store for you...I'm crossing everything and your in my prayers
Hi Trish,
I am so sorry to hear about the situation you are in. I would like to tell you that I have been going through some hard times myself. A couple of weeks I had a car accident which I posted on this board, my car is my lively hood. I am a single parent, and without my car I would not be to go to work, as a matter of fact I work 2 jobs. My car was totaled, not my fault, i wa**** from behind. I was taken to the hospital, Thank God I was okay, but at the moment I was thinking no car no jobs, how would I take care of my family. I was about to have a nervous breakdown. That is when my Father said to me, you have gone through so much in your life, but everytime that something has happened to you, didn't it always working out. I realize that was true. But it doesn't feel like that at the time. Anyway, it ended up that the Insurance I have I am unable to sue, the Father of the girl who hit me called me two days later, wanting to settle because he didn't want his Insurance to go up sky high, he didn't want me to sue. He didn't know that I couldn't sue, and i wasn't going to tell him. He came to my home and gave me the money to buy another car, (the value of my car) that was totaled, plus pain and suffering. Just so you know I was broke at the time, so I would have not been able to buy another car. I took the money bought another car, and was able to continue to go to work. What I am trying to say is things do work out you will see, why we have to go through the things we go through so God can see how much Faith we have in him. Don't give up, have faith and everything will work out for you, you will see. I will be praying for you.
I am so sorry to hear about the situation you are in. I would like to tell you that I have been going through some hard times myself. A couple of weeks I had a car accident which I posted on this board, my car is my lively hood. I am a single parent, and without my car I would not be to go to work, as a matter of fact I work 2 jobs. My car was totaled, not my fault, i wa**** from behind. I was taken to the hospital, Thank God I was okay, but at the moment I was thinking no car no jobs, how would I take care of my family. I was about to have a nervous breakdown. That is when my Father said to me, you have gone through so much in your life, but everytime that something has happened to you, didn't it always working out. I realize that was true. But it doesn't feel like that at the time. Anyway, it ended up that the Insurance I have I am unable to sue, the Father of the girl who hit me called me two days later, wanting to settle because he didn't want his Insurance to go up sky high, he didn't want me to sue. He didn't know that I couldn't sue, and i wasn't going to tell him. He came to my home and gave me the money to buy another car, (the value of my car) that was totaled, plus pain and suffering. Just so you know I was broke at the time, so I would have not been able to buy another car. I took the money bought another car, and was able to continue to go to work. What I am trying to say is things do work out you will see, why we have to go through the things we go through so God can see how much Faith we have in him. Don't give up, have faith and everything will work out for you, you will see. I will be praying for you.
Melissa C
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