I just got approval and now I am scared

Hello all new to the posting thing, I just got word that my insurance approved the surgery and now I am scared. All I need is a psych evaluation , got the appointment already for that...
My husband says he loves me just the way I am and he does not know if he is going to like me with skin hanging all off me (mean right). I told him he is being negative and we dont even know how I will look. I cant go on this way....

Hi Adiamondpearl, I'm Danielle.
This surgery is a very personal decision.  And yes, having the support of family would be excellent and would make it a bit easier.  But if they aren't going to support you to get healthy and to live a better lifestyle then they don't really want what's best for you!

Dare I say...that maybe he's afraid you'll get all skinny and gorgeous and not want him anymore?
Or he is afraid that the lifestyle change that you will go through isn't what  HE wants?  Unfortunately, he is being selfish and he is definitely not looking out for what's best for you!

Sorry!

Danielle

Hi Adiamondpearl

Not everyone have hanging skin and (he should have keep that comment to himself) you have to do want right for you. I'm still seeing the nutritionist because my insurance require it for 6 months I have 2 more months.I told one sister just say I should have kept it to myself,but again we must do want right for us. Let keep in touch.

God Bless

Belinda

MAybe your husband is a bit worried because it is a major surgery? My husband was a bit cautious at first because he was worried that it was dangerous.  After research and meeting the surgeon he was more on board.  But he didn't totally relax until a week ago when I excitedly said I feel great.  Some time to get used to the idea......

Hi,

Remember this is your decision and no one else's, if he really loves you he will support you,  Remember to always love yourself for who you are.  I will be praying that everything works out for you.

Dear Adiamondpearl,   I echo everyone’s sentiments. If you are doing this for healthy reasons, then you need to ask yourself (A) are the risks sagging skink worth taking (I said yes), (B) can I continue living a healthy lifestyle the way I am going (I said no). But again, it’s a PERSONAL decision - no one else can make it for you.   I’ve known others who had family members, while trying to be helpful, say the wrong thing. So maybe you should ask your husband “what is he really afraid of”. I bet you’ll find out it’s loosing you. If it’s indeed “vanity” - then ask him would he leave you if you lost a limb in an accident, or had to have body parts removed due to disease? Remind him obesity is a disease. And explain if you don’t have the operation that your life can be cut short. Then where does that leave relationship? Would it be better to live an additional 5 years “firm”, or 30 years “a little loose”. And heck, as we get older, all our body parts loose their firmness (unless you're rich enough to afford a nip and tuck here and there).   Good luck to you!! And I pray you make the best choice for YOU!!