just because i'm fat doesn't mean i'm deaf

So, why is it that people can get away with some of the things that i've heard ppl say?  I swear that people think you can't hear them, maybe they just don't care(which i'm sure is the majority), but I refuse to believe that people can be so heartless and mean about the things they say.  I sit here with tears in my eyes, thinking of all the things that I have heard after I walk by or when I turn my back.  I don't think that any race, creed, sex, religion, or disability goes through this kind of discrimination to this day.  It is acceptable to put down people like me and sometimes funny in thier eyes. 

I have been overweight since I was about 3 years old.  I have always been active, I have always  had friends, and I have always enjoyed life, despite of a few iggys that made fun here and there.  I do believe that the ignorance comes from the parents and I can only do my best to show my children not to treat ANYone unkind because they look different.  I just don't get it.  How is this kind of discrimination still acceptable in this day and age?  Don't get me wrong, I can laugh at myself and I know that I have weaknesses, but come on people!  

Here are some of the things that I have heard throughout my adult life,  please feel free to add to these, as I am looking for others that may feel the same way.  

--- As I was walking down the street with a pizza box in my hand I hear a guy say, " hey girl, can I have some of that pizza?  Lord knows you don't need it."

---As I am sitting at a table with a few normal sized friends to have a few drinks and enjoy some karaoke, I  hear a guy say, " All the chicks at that table are hot, accept the fat one."

---While sitting in Health class debating the subject of discrimination in my junior year at high school I hear a girl say, " she should understand being discriminated against, She's fat."

---When a boy wanted me to perform oral sex on him and I wouldn't do it.  I told my friend about it who in turn told her boyfriend about it who was friends with that boy, he proceeded to say, " I would let my dog do it before I would let her do it"

---When I was walking down the street with a few friends, a car full of guys stops to ask me if I wanted a cheeseburger.

---As I am walking with my child to the bathroom at the beach, I hear the tagchecker girl say to the other tagchecker girl, " Hey, It looks like NY is missing a parade float."(this was a grown woman in her 50s at least)

---I am visiting my grandfather in the nursing home he lives in, and as I'm passing these two little old ladies, I hear, " How do you let yourself get that big?"

So that is just a couple.  I hope I didn't bore you with my rants.  Please feel free to add to the list.  Thanks for  your time, Maria



 

MAria,I won't add because the list is endless.I agree that kids do learn from parents & it is sad & painful to hear these things.I don't know why it's ok to pick on fat people especially since so many people are overweight.Noone would think it was ok if they heard people making fun of a person disfigured by an accident yet they see no problem if the disfigurement is excess bodyfat.SO many think we "let"ourselves get this way yea like we wake up & say I wanna weigh 3,4,5hundred or more lbs.We wanna be picked on,outcast,unhealthy etc,people are iggnorant it's that simple.I also think we are so freely picked on because EVERYONE knows it could happen to them & I think they are scared of that.Plus I bet if you look at their families they most likely have fat relatives.My one brother always had fat hangups wouldn't date fat girls & if he did it was on the sly & he always said o she's nice for a fat girl or yea shed be pretty if she wasn't so fat.Hello you put you **** in her!And guess what you manage to find every skinny nut around.Now at 48 yrs old who's he with?NOONE!Now he grew up with fat sisters & a mom who got heavy later in life so you wouldn't expect it but go figure.People are just ****ed up & if they're picking on us they must be trying to hide their flaws.

Hi Maria,


I went through a lot of pain when I was a child myself, because of my weight, which created a self-esteem problem for me.  Society sucks!!!  Somehow that's just the way it is, you somehow just have to get past it, and learn to love yourself for who you are.

Hi Maria!

People can be so cruel.  What type of surgery are you looking to have?

Jen

I'm sorry this has happened to you, and to all of us at some time.   I hope whatever surgery you pick, the weight loss experience is a positive one for you.  It is funny  (funny weird, not funny ha-ha)  to see how differently people react to you at different sizes.  It keeps me really grounded, and I don't think I'll ever forget what it was like at my largest.   (I'm still working on getting to my smallest!)    Good Luck,  Mary C

sometimes it is the innocent ones that hurt the most..
i am a teacher and having kids ask....are you having a baby or what is in your belly
is so embarassing
by this september i am hoping that never comes up again!

People are ignorant. My own sister-in-law is very obese and my in-laws are always commenting on how big people are. As long as they are bigger than her she chimes in! Can you image?