OT - Jersey support greatly appreciated

I am waiting on an update from my hubby as he is sleeping right now.....

His mother was acting bizzarre last night - and when I left for work, he went to go find her somewhere in Milltown by East Brunswick (we live in Port Monmouth - so we're talking about a 45 minute drive, plus trolling around looking for her) - we weren't sure where exactly she was.  They have had their fair share of stress and health problems lately and she has a mental illness history along with a drug addiction history (she sniffs glue of all things.  Jersey is one of the few states who sells a contact cement with an ingredient called Tiawine (sp?) and it makes you high...so she sniffs that)  By her actions and her words, it appeared she was high last night and driving - which is very disturbing on multiple levels.  During her rough periods she would do the same and was in multiple car accidents, major ones.  Thankfully nobody innocent was ever hurt.....

If what we thought was the case was last night - I think we are travelling down that road again.  It was a rough day for hubby all in all yesterday - and this happened at 10pm when he was finally regaining composure about everything else happening.  I don't know what time he got in nor if he found his mother nor if she was high or not......

So keep all of them in your prayer list or good thought list.  I'm not sure how much more hubby or FIL can take....

Pam

My thoughts and prayers are with your family, and your husband's family during this stressful time.

Pam,I feelso bad for your hubby & you.I can't imagine what it must be like for a child,no matter how old to have to deal with that.Hopefully she'llget somehelp.Hugs & prayers

hi pam sorry you guys are dealing with all this stress, it makes life hard. i used to live in the town right next to  Milltown, east brunswick. made me think about that when i read your post. hope things improve hugs, jacki

Hi Pam, Sorry to here about what you and your hubby are going through.  You and your family will be in my prayers.

Pam: Sending out big ((((((HUGS))))) to you and DH. I grew up with two brother who have mental health and substance abuse issues and understand what you are going through. The stress and anguish when a family member is ill physically or mentally is a rough road. My prayers going for you and DH and that she is found safely. Linda

Thank you all very much for your support and words of wisdom.  It helps to have the support. On Tuesday morning hubby told me that thanks to OnStar in her vehicle, they were able to find her.  He actually didn't get to where she was - the police found her first.  She, as many addicts are, was wonderful at lying and covering up so they cleared her to drive home....hubby met her at her house where she was indeed high.   He got her into the house, and put her in the (finished) basement for the night where she could cause the least amount of damage.  His father began packing things up.  This has been an ongoing intermittent saga for decades - once landing hubby in the hospital because when she was high she hallucinated that he was the devil and stabbed him.   Hubby has had quite enough - and really - I can't blame him much.  We've had issues with her beyond this for a long time - and have, without sounding conceited, bent over backwards for her with little or no return.   His father called today - he never left.  He says she's clean and what not - and the hubby told him that right now he's welcome at our house any time - including if he needs to get out of their apartment if things get rough again.  He also told him that what little relationship he had with his mother (it's been strained.....) is not there and he wants little or nothing to do with her at this point in time.  His father is not happy about that comment - and I'm somewhere in the middle of the two emotions of his father forgiving and forgetting and my husband being irate. In all honesty, though, hubby's surgery is Friday and we need to concentrate on him and after surgery healing him.  He will also need to get a new job as a week ago he was let go from his other one.  It sounds cruel and unjust to just say "We're concentrating on us now" but it is what it is and needs to be done. So, that's what little updated info I have.  At the very least, she was safe and managed yet again to not hurt any other innocent bystanders while driving high, which I thank whatever angels were watching over her and the others that night. Pam