I needed to share this!!!!

Hi Everyone, I don't know what to think, for some reason I had a feeling that Randall's morning talk was going to be exactly what was on my mind.  When I started to read what he wrote I started to cry, here is my story.   About 1 year, and half ago, DYFS took my grandson from my daughter accusing her of child abuse, he had a mark on his neck, and they said it was a burn.  A week later they found out he had the chicken pox, it was all over his body.  They admitted to the court that she didn't abuse him, but gave her the run around, and would not give him back.   Almost a year had past, and my grandson was moved from foster home to foster home. I raised 4 children by myself, and my youngest daughter is 16 already, so I was not ready to raise a child again.  Finally I made the decision to seek legal custody of my Grandson in September of 2007.  I went to court the end of October 2007, and I was granted physical custody.  I was told at that time if I continued to take my grandson to a psychologist that he was going too, I would come back to court in January 31, 2008 and at that time I would receive Legal Custody.   Well I complied with what they wanted, but my Grandson has a lot of behavorial Issues, and I had realized that he may have ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyper Activity Disorder) so I asked the psychologist what he thought, and he agreed, but because he is not a medical doctor he can not prescibe medication for the disorder, he recommended that I find a chid psychiatrist.   Well my grandson kept getting suspended from the day care he goes to, and I was afraid of losing my job, so just before we went back to court in January I went on a mission to find a child psychiatrist.  It was not an easy task.  I finally found one, and I did this on my own without DYFS help. The week before I went to court I had the Child Psychiatrist evaluate him.  Then the day before court my grandson got suspended again, by the way my grandson is 5 years old.  When we went to court I had to take my grandson with me because he was suspended.  So DYFS used that against me, and I wasn't even able to go in front of the Judge.  They told me they wanted for us to continue with the child psychiatrist that I found, and In Home Counceling, and if everything was in play in 45 days we will come back and I would get Legal Custody then.   Well DYFS had another trick up their sleeve, they new that if they gave me legal custody the In home counceling would end when I would come back in 45 days, because the counceling is paid through them, and then they would say we don't want this to end yet so we aren't giving you custody yet.   So I went on another Mission to find a therapist for Indidvidual and family counceling that is long term, and that can be paid by my grandson's medical Insurance.  Well since I had my Grandson evaluated the beginning of February he has been on Medication, and his behavior has been excellent for over a month now.   So DYFS calls me last thursday knowing that we are going to court Tomorrow March 19, 2008, and the DYFS worker says to me, well Melissa I just want to let you know that we don't want the In Home Counceling to end yet, so until you get a long term program we would like to supervise a little longer, what did I tell you they had a trick up their sleeve.  He also said that Zaijhon(my Grandson) I heard that his behavior has been good, but a month is not long enough, we want to see if it continues.  I was so upset that they just keep upsetting me, and harassing me.  I have done everything, I also financially take care of my graandson DYFS doesn't give me any money either, it is very stressful and sometimes I admit that I miss my freedom of being able to come and go.  Taking care of a 5 year old with ADHD isn't easy.  Having DYFS watching over every little thing you do isn't easy either.  But i realize that I love my grandson, and he needs me, I love him so much, and I ask God everyday to keep me strong, and help me too continue to realize that am doing what is right.   My grandson has been through a lot, and is so happy to be with his family.   I found a Therapist yesterday for Individual and Family Counceling it will start next week on Monday 24, 2008, and will continue long term..  I told the DYFS worker, and he didn't know what to say, I beat them at their own game again.   So the Law Guardian for the child said I have done more for my Grandson then DYFS ever did while he was in Foster Care.  She is going make sure tommorrow that Legal Custody finally be given to me.  Well In closing children need our love and attention, and I realize I can't be selfish, because I didn't want to raise a child again, my children said that they saw that I was very stressed out, and they said they would help me take care of Zaijhon, and they would watch him whenever I feel the need to want to go and have sometime to myself.  Well pray for me everyone that I receive Legal Custody tommorrow.  Thanks for reading the whole story!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I will keep you and your family in my prays!

Thank you so much!!!

Hey Melissa, Good luck tomorrow, keep your faith.  DYFS in NJ is a joke, protecting the wrong people and harrassing the right people.  I am glad your grandson is being medicated.  My son has ADHD as well and we'd never have survived without the meds.  The counseling will help too, just keep up the good work.  BTW -- you look awesome.  I just viewed all the pics on your page, everyone looks great and you have done really well with your RNY, I'm happy for you! Let us know how court goes, I'll be praying for you. Regards, Diane

Thank you Diane!!!!  Y ou have done well yourself!!!  I will be praying for you and your family as well!!!

Melissa,  What a great grandmother you are to your grandson!  I will keep you and your family in my prayers and hope you get full custody of your grandson.  Let us know the out come.

Thank you so much Michelle!!!

Hi Melissa, I wanted to wish you luck tomorrow and tell you what a great thing you are doing. Your grandson is a lucky little boy to have someone like you on his side.
sherri

Thank you so much Sherri!!!