my surgiverysary coming up and depressed...nuts?

end of this month will be 1 yr since RNY...i dont know why but im feeling very depressed.... anyone know of a good support group around the wayne NJ area....maybe i just need to be around others who go thru the same as me....this board really helps....but i dunno why.....maybe im just nuts...lol

I don't think your nuts at all. Before we get into all of that, though, congrats on your surgiversary - I hope you are able to enjoy it some. At a support group in pa I went to (cause I had my surgery there, so I still travel back and forth for their support group meetings as I've made some very near and dear friends) last month, we had this exact discussion.  There were multiple members who were one, two, three years plus and it seems to be a recurring theme.  It seems that once you are close to goal, or at goal, or whatever, there seems to be this "what now" sinking feeling.  One of the guys said "I've forgotten more information than most people even start off knowing"  He was referring to all the nuances of the surgery he once knew by heart.  Many people, after talking, figured out he hadn't really "forgotten" the information, it was just so a part of him, that he no longer needed to think about it. Try to keep in mind that getting to goal is NOT the goal.  Maintaining a healthy life style for LIFE is.  And that journey continues on daily in our lives.  You may need to make more challenges for yourself, be it fitness related, or a new hobby, or something along those lines. Take a look at before and after photos if you have them.  Make a list of things you couldn't do before surgery that you now can. Know that you are supported here and post anything and everything - there is bound to be someone out there who knows what you are going through. Hang in there, and if it doesn't get better (especially if you have a history of depression) you may want to seek some sort of professional help be it counselling, medications, or a combination of both. Wishing you more "successing" as our support group calls it, Pam

first of all congrats on reaching your first surgiversary. im sure there must be a support group somewhere in your area, hopefully someone on the board here will answer you about that. i think we do all need to be together and bond since we have gone thru a major lifestyle change. but think of what you have accomplished and how it has changed your life for the better. did you use a surgeon in north jersey?? maybe he has a support group?? good luck and stay positive hugs, jacki

Happy Surgiversary!  You've come so far!

I attend a support group which is held the 4th Wednesday of the month at St. Clare's Hospital in Dover.  Not the closest but not too bad!  The nutritionist runs the group and it's a great bunch of people!  If you don't find one closer - come join us for the March meeting!

Vicki

The support group at Morristown Memorial is not too far. It's the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 5:30 PM room 571. we are a small very supportive group and would love to see some new faces!