Big thanks to my OCWLS peeps!

Hey everybody! Hope you had a wonderful holiday! I just wanted to thank everyone who was at the meeting Friday night for being there in my time of need, and supporting me in my "moment"...especially to those who came up to me afterwards and shared kind words with me. Normally I wouldn't have opened up like that and aired my "dirty laundry", but I consider you all my family. It's been something that's been on my mind and in my life for quite some time, but the mood of prior meetings never seemed to be the right time to discuss it. Also, I realize that sometimes people are going through their own issues, perhaps more pressing, so I felt like who am I to tell you my tale of woe? Since a couple others opened the door somewhat and mentioned spouse issues, whether negative or positive, I felt an overwhelming need to open up and talk, and was ready. I know my voice was shaking, and it took all of me to not break down in tears, but I felt relieved to get that off my chest...and who better to than those who I know would not necessarily judge me, but would at least listen. It's times like these that I realize what a great group we have, that's it's a place that isn't "clinical", but definitely therapeutic on some level. Love you guys! Hugs, Wendy

Wendy~ I am so glad that you did open up and share with us about your struggles. I feel priveleged to be trusted with your struggle. I know it's hard to trust people sometimes, but I think you did the right thing with sharing that with the group, and I think you probably also helped others there. I know you did. Please know that I am praying for your situation, I wish there was something else I could do for you to help soothe your pain. If I can help, please let me know. Even if it's just to meet for coffee somewhere.... I am a good listener Peace and strength, Michelle Brennan

Michelle, thank you so much for being you! Your words mean so much to me. I'm hoping that in some small way, I did help others. I know I helped myself somewhat. It's one thing to think about the situation you're going through, but a totally different thing to actually hear yourself say it out loud. It's easy for all of us to talk about our triumphs, as well as our struggles with nutrition and everything else having to do with the surgery that aren't touchy subjects. But when it comes to discussing serious problems in our personal relationships with others, especially spouses, it's somewhat taboo. Some of us, including myself, are guarded when it comes to that, and want others to think that the grass is always greener on the other side, which we know isn't always the case. I probably wouldn't have mentioned it if others didn't "nudge the door open" for me! Thanks again for your thoughts and prayers...I feel stronger knowing that you truly care. Hugs, Wendy

Anytime friend. I'm a broad....duh....I love broads...... I mean I have broad shoulders .... Yeah, that's what I meant. Seriously though, we love you and although you may have been asking to be heard, you did help others by being as open as you were. Know that I love you and am honored to call you my friend! Hugs, Nannette

Hey Nan, my Blue Thong Broad! It was good seeing you last night, along with the other Thongers! Thanks much for the love and support, and a huge thanks for running the OCWLS support group. I really needed it that night. Like I said, it's a lot like therapy, but free!!! Hugs, Wendy

You spoke with dignity and class. You are admirable and brave.

Hi Ang! Was good seeing you last night! Thank you for your sincere words. I'm only hoping that I can remain brave! Hugs, Wendy

Wendy, You spoke from your heart and at the same time a little cleansing of the soul took place. You should never hold back when you are with friends, we are there to listen, not to judge. I am hoping that since Friday night you are feeling better and putting everything you said and/or heard in perspective. Never feel ashamed to show your feelings. Hugs, Connie

Connie, you're so right about "a little cleansing of the soul". My mind was in such turmoil, but since talking it out with others, I feel like I can get through this, whatever the outcome. The best part? Knowing I have friends like you and others in the group that are there for me. Thanks so much. Hugs, Wendy

I didn't hear a word, I was too buzy staring at your boobs. Ok..running now..