Dating and WLS

I've always been really shy when it comes to dating. Now I feel even worse lol. I feel no so called "normal" guy will understand and be able to accept my WLS. I've already had a guy tell me he'd rather date a fat girl then a girl who had WLS. Silly huh. We need to start a WLS dating service LOL.

You will find someone who is worthy of you, kick that guy to the curb,You do not have to explain anything to anyone. That guy seems like he needs a brain. Dont compromise yourself for anyone. Tell him you would rather date someone intelligent then stupid.Dont ever settle.Love,Jade

There is already a service. It's called weightlosssurgerysingles. You can add the w's and the dot com. Membership is free. I'm not affiliated with them. Just passing on information. You're not a freak AND there are plenty of ppl that would be happy to date a health concious person.

I've just started on this journey, so dating isn't a concern for me yet I do, however, understand your feelings. But I have to ask you this.... are you TELLING them right off the bat that you had WLS? I'm not shy about telling people about my business, but I would think that that is something I would save until the relationship develops a bit more... perhaps then, when they know YOU, the WLS won't be an issue. I do understand, though, because I had a guy about a month ago "disappear" after telling him I was planning the surgery. Funny, just before that he was telling me how "brutally honest" he was, but his "I'm tired, I'll talk to you tomorrow" and never following through was his way of "being honest" with me! Anyway, I digress. I just think that some topics don't have to be brought up right away Wendy

kick him to the curb big time, if a man can't accept me for who I am inside first then out, then he's not worthy of me..and I wouldn't tell a potential date anything, no one's business.

I had just started dating him right before surgery.. And he was great in the beginning. But I guess he realized this was no walk in the park. I mean I'm only 5 weeks post op. I think it was a jealousy thing though, that I'm losing and he's not.

I agree with Wendy! Just like with other personal things in our life, this should be kept out of your dating profile for a while. First, see if he's worthy of you, period. Then, you can test the waters. Good Luck! Robin

..and now for a completely different reply.. Give him time and the same understanding you want in return. We (WLS folks) tend to be a selfish lot when it comes to the ammount of support we think we deserve. We also tend to forget that we get real excited about this stuff and want to talk about it far more then they do. ..on the flip side, he could just be a big dork too

I would definately have to agree with the big dork concept. It was kind of hard to keep it from him though, I was dating him pre op, and we knew eachother for a little while prior to dating.

That is crazy, I agree with everyone get rid of that guy it is obvious this guy is jealous of you, find someone that will support you and encourage you. Harris [email protected]