Supportive families..... or not so supportive!

Last night Bob and I went to my parents for "Dinner" and celebrated his upcoming birthday this week. My sisters, their hubbies and my nieces and nephews where there. Well im sure you can imagine the conversation... Us and surgery. What topped off the night the best was.... i got sick and dumped!!! Great timing. I tried something new.. and it did not agree. My sister turned around and said to me why would you get this surgery if this is what you had to deal with? I turned to her and told her that she has never had a weight issue. She does not know how hard it really is. She is a size 4 and weighs 120 pds! Dumping as unpleasant as it is..... and having to deal with it at this stage of the game by relearning to eat and trying new things.... i would not have traded this surgery for the world. They were saying how "radical" the surgery is and why would i only want to eat smaller portions. I should do what my eldest sister does... work out and eat right...yet.. she is having a hard time losing her weight also .... They just didnt get it. Then on the other hand... hey im proud of you that you guys lost weight.... It became frustrating. By that time all of our kids were getting cranky so it was a good time to head out. I dont expect everyone in the world to agree with us who have gotten the surgery... i just expect that people should respect our choices without condemning us!

Look I am almost 4 months preop you have your ups and downs but more ups I would have done it again in a munute.I also was to my brothers last weekend who doesnt have a weight problem, they cant relate to it.Just do your thing you and your husband have each other thats all that matters I dont really care what my brother and sister inlaw think. Harris

Chrisitine, at our new support group meeting in S. Plainfield we've decided a topic for next month will be, "Family and Friends reactions, and what the're motives might be." Need I say more? I'll let you know what we've discovered! robin

My husband has been my rock, the rest of my family and friends were extremely negative about wls. I am 13 months post op and 100 pounds lighter. I just had my lbl and bl with augmentation and in 1 year have gone from a size 22/24 to a size six. Next week I get a face lift and again the pessemists abound. I think a lot is ignorance and jealousy. Do what is right for you. I could not be happier with my choices. My life and health has improved drastically in just one year, and I am optimistic about my future. Good luck in your weight loss journey. Sharon