New and need help deciding

The band is much easier to circumvent than the RNY. My surgeon dismissed the band for me because I am, as he said, a "food addict." If you are much the same - eating for any reason, or no reason at all, massively overeating even when you're full - I'd encourage you to get the RNY. Done laparoscopically, the RNY has similar rates of complication to the banding, and is long-term more successful.