WOW are you kidding me?
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on 6/12/11 5:27 am
on 6/12/11 5:27 am
I just realized something today that the only person I can really rely on is me. I am saying this because several people I thought would back me on decisions (decisions that are good for me) actually want to sabotage me.
Case in point: I was asking a question of a friend and there were other people there I have known for years and have always supported me, well anyhoo I asked this friend what she thought of any kind of WLS. I was just being curious. Well she of course did what I thought she was going to do and automatically launched into the "I know someone who did it and....blah blah blah!!" I knew she of all people would do it. But these other people surprised me and just went off the deep end. Saying things that took me by surprise. THings such as WLS is the easy way out. You know you can die from that. Why do you need it (never told them I was considering it, they assumed I was)? And of course the old- just stop eating so much and exercise more. LOL.
I had to very gently explain that YES I am getting it done and YES I know I could possibly die and if eating less and exercising more actually worked for majority of people there would be no such thing as WLS.
Now a few of them are refusing to talk to me because they are dead set against it, while the others just seem to be in total shock that I have been going through all this and never told them. I guess in the back of my head I knew they would be like that but I was in denial, which is probably why I did not say anything until now. The "friend" has asked me not to call her again or even acknowledge her if I see her around. Shouldn't be that hard since things started going downhill slowly for her and I about 5 months ago. But it still does hurt a bit for people I thought would be there for me to just turn their backs. So that is why I said the only person I can really rely on is myself.
P.S. Even had one of them tell me about that woman who lost 300 pounds on her own. I had to quip back that for every 100 people that loose that much weight only 3% can keep it off effectively. I got called a liar and a know it all. AHH WELL
Case in point: I was asking a question of a friend and there were other people there I have known for years and have always supported me, well anyhoo I asked this friend what she thought of any kind of WLS. I was just being curious. Well she of course did what I thought she was going to do and automatically launched into the "I know someone who did it and....blah blah blah!!" I knew she of all people would do it. But these other people surprised me and just went off the deep end. Saying things that took me by surprise. THings such as WLS is the easy way out. You know you can die from that. Why do you need it (never told them I was considering it, they assumed I was)? And of course the old- just stop eating so much and exercise more. LOL.
I had to very gently explain that YES I am getting it done and YES I know I could possibly die and if eating less and exercising more actually worked for majority of people there would be no such thing as WLS.
Now a few of them are refusing to talk to me because they are dead set against it, while the others just seem to be in total shock that I have been going through all this and never told them. I guess in the back of my head I knew they would be like that but I was in denial, which is probably why I did not say anything until now. The "friend" has asked me not to call her again or even acknowledge her if I see her around. Shouldn't be that hard since things started going downhill slowly for her and I about 5 months ago. But it still does hurt a bit for people I thought would be there for me to just turn their backs. So that is why I said the only person I can really rely on is myself.
P.S. Even had one of them tell me about that woman who lost 300 pounds on her own. I had to quip back that for every 100 people that loose that much weight only 3% can keep it off effectively. I got called a liar and a know it all. AHH WELL
Bonnie, that is awful that these so-called friends would be so heartless. Maybe they think they have your best interests in mind but what they did was harsh. But, DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF! You've got all of US!
We all know the risks of mortality. We all know the health risks without surgery. We have all been on every diet known to mankind. We've tried exercise programs and sweated to every song ever recorded. There comes a time when we need to utilize the proper tools and wls is that tool.
Your "friend" that said not to contact her wasn't a friend to begin with. Someone who loves you doesn't do that. I have a very dear friend, the best for over 25 yrs, that is suffering from MO with co-mobidity issues. She also has a lack of insurance that prevents her from having the wls that her cardiologist wants her to have. If I had the money, she would be going through the same steps with me right now, I love her and want her to be healthy and strong. People who love you want you to be healthy and the best you can be.
Again, we are all here for you and will support you every step of the way. Many ((((Hugs))))
Kristi
We all know the risks of mortality. We all know the health risks without surgery. We have all been on every diet known to mankind. We've tried exercise programs and sweated to every song ever recorded. There comes a time when we need to utilize the proper tools and wls is that tool.
Your "friend" that said not to contact her wasn't a friend to begin with. Someone who loves you doesn't do that. I have a very dear friend, the best for over 25 yrs, that is suffering from MO with co-mobidity issues. She also has a lack of insurance that prevents her from having the wls that her cardiologist wants her to have. If I had the money, she would be going through the same steps with me right now, I love her and want her to be healthy and strong. People who love you want you to be healthy and the best you can be.
Again, we are all here for you and will support you every step of the way. Many ((((Hugs))))
Kristi
HW 244lbs SW 232lbs CW 148lbs GW 125-130lbs 
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on 6/13/11 2:33 am
on 6/13/11 2:33 am
No to be honest I get the feeling I was the fat friend of the bunch. There is always at least one of those in a group and looking back it was me ALL the time. I also look back and realize I was also the brunt of a lot of the jokes. Man what it takes to make a person take a second or 12th look at a situation from the outside. My DH told me that I did not need THOSE types of people and that no matter what he had my back.
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