your opinion!

alrite so here is the deal.. i am 19 years old my sister and i have always been really close she is twenty nine and we were both overweight last yr she had bariatric surgery i have seen what shes been thru, i have seen everything that it takes the pain the comments the struggle and i think im ready! but for some odd reason my family and friends dont support me like they did her... saying im too young i should lose it on my own and not take the "easy way out" i dont kno what to do i have the insurance to cover it all and everything like that and i am about to get married and i want to be able to spend time with my kids and run around and have fun cause i love kids i want to be a good mom... what would u guys do if u didnt have the support of the ones u love but u kno its something to help u

does your future hubby support it? or your sis, she should know better than anyone that it is not the easy way out. as far as what i would do, i would go for it since your insurance covers it. you don't want to be my age (36) and wishing you had done this when you were 19. I would have loved to have my 20's to do the things i'm planning on doing when i finally get my surgery.

ultimately this is your chose and nobody elses. i do think at your age you should talk to a doctor/counselor, etc...try to lose on your own but if you are like the rest of us you have tried several times. make sure that you have done everything you can...begin exercise, etc regardless. start to change the habits that you can change. obviously genetics plays a part and you might not be to control everything on your own. control the things that you can and have to control..and then when it is write you will know. the surgery has been wonderful for me so i will never try to talk someone out of it...only point out the obvious challenges!!! goodluck susan

Hey Leah, First of all, it's not the easy way out....It's a struggle. I'm 11 mths post op. I've lost most of my weight, I need to loose another 20 lbs and I'll be happy. The further out from surgery the more you eat, its not a cure. You still have to watch your portions and what you eat. You can gain your weight back. You are young, if your insurance will cover it, then go for it, don't worry about what others think, its what's in your heart. The support that your older sister gets, its because she is older and they are worried about her health and the risks, because of her age. You're so much younger that they probally don't see that you could have health problems. Do what's in your heart. Talk to your sister, I'm sure that she understands where you are coming from...Take care, Sandi

thank u for all of your responses! its helped me a lot and its hard to find a doctor in this area that will do it before 20 which sucks! but there is one i have to do a little more research on ive gotten a few responses my sister and cousin is good really good happy for me ready to support me... my mom is happy for me so is my dad! my future hubby is astonished hes scared saying that im going to leave him because of my weight loss and i wouldnt do that! but my best friend who is also the same size as me, she wasnt very responsive she doesnt like the idea at all so i will work thru it and get help my doctor even suggested it! i do thank all of u for everything u have said its encouraging and makes me happy so i appreciate it! thanks *Leah*