Weight loss goal question. Long post

Hello everyone . . I have a question - what tool have you all used to determine what your ultimate weight loss goal would be? To my knowledge there are at least 3 very different weight loss guides and I wanted to know which is the best. #1 is the very popular BMI chart which states that persons with a BMI below 25 is healthy. Here is a link to the BMI Chart http://www.consumer.gov/weightloss/bmi.htm #2 is also popular - The Ideal Weight Chart which is based on the frame of a persons body (small, medium, or large) and the persons height. Here is a link to the Ideal Weight Chart. http://www.weight-chart.org/ #3 is calculating the percentage of body fat in your body. Here is a link to an article about body fat and a 2nd link to a body fat calculator http://www.healthchecksystems.com/bodyfat.htm http://www.elitetotaltraining.com/body_fat_percentage.asp I began to think about this a couple of weeks ago. I read this advice column (in a fitness magazine) the reader asked if her weight was 10lbs higher than what the BMI or Ideal weight chart stated (which ever one her doctor used) but her body fat percentage was very low or at least normal should she be concerned about her weight. The column writer responded that as long as the reader's body fat percentage was low she should not be concerned about her actual weight because it is the fat percentage that causes heart problems and leads to heart disease. What do you all think . . . I checked my numbers and there is a big difference in the maximum healthy weight I can be. According to the BMI chart the max healthy weight I can be is 144 to 149 lbs but the Ideal Weight Charts states my max weight (based on my height and frame (small)) is 130lbs But what if I work out on a regular basis and I only get down to 155lbs but my fat percentage is around 25% is that good or not. I am confused. I want to be healthy but I don't want to have to be a stick (130lbs) either . . I want to be voluptuous and sexy. Phenom 322/289/145?

I would be happy if i didnt loose another pound at 168. And ,i feel sexy for the first time in years. I have decided not to even think about a goal, just enjoy this wonderful ride and how great i feel Gail