Nothing to do with weight loss

This post has nothing to do with surgery, weight loss, ect. I just need to vent and wisdom on a certian situation. My mother is from Italy and is 80 years, she ask me this year about taking her home this year because it may be her last visit. I said of course. I have two neices one is 17 and the other is 9. The 9 year old's parents are my brother and sister in law. The 9 year feels she has to do everything to keep up with 17 year old and the 9 year parents feel that she should as well. The 17 year wanted to go with us, she is a senior in high school so I thought she was adult enough to go and she could help with grandma. I made arrangments for the trip and then a month later all hell broke loss becuase the 9 year old had not been included. I recieved an email stated they did not understand why their daughter was not asked to go. Anyway to make a long story short, I recieved another email today that stated that I would not be able to see this little girl again and that any family event they would not attend if I was there. I can not believe this is happening!

Hi!! Sorry about the troubles. Sounds to me like they are a bit on the immature side. My answer would be that if they wanted to come along and pay their own expenses and tend to their daughter, then they could. That I felt the 17 year old could manage herself and would be a help to the grandmother. If they still persist, then so be it. Someone has to be adult enough to decide that a 9 year old does NOT make the decisions!!

My two cents,,,, I am a softy , and I am a peace keeper , so warning I would ask the family to forgive my over looking the 9 year old, I would say , please if she wants to come let her ( I guess her parents would be paying ) .... Look at it like this , this will mostly likely be your momma's last chance to see home, and your nieice's last chance to see your momma so Happy- it is a chance of a life time. I would suggest be the bigger person , be Jesus to the World , trust me you will come out smelling like roses. Make this vacation a happy time for your Momma , and a time she will not worry about family problems. Family s can come apart when they need each other the most. The brother and sister in law are just hurt right now, wrap your arms around them and make a stand for Peace in your momma's last days. Told you , I was a softy. Good Luck, Allison

Allison - I just wanted to tell you that your words warmed my heart! In today's society, everyone is so hurried to get back at someone or turn their back on them because of such a small misunderstanding or miscommunication (such as this one) - I was touched by your response! You are not a softy, you are a witness for Christ! Thanks! Susan

Susan, There is no complement that you could have made that warmed my heart so much. Thank you for saying it. I turned my life over to Christ a few years ago , and before I did , I had just about broken all ties with my blood family over silly little fights etc.... as soon as I stood up from that alter I knew I had to make things right. I have been so blessed with a forgiving family and a Lord that allows us to forgive. There is a song on my radio station that really sings of the truth " Live and Love" , a song about a woman who had a fight with her son one morning , then a few days later is placing flowers on a cross by the road,,, a man whos cancer is back,,,, the song tells us to live and to love as if this is our last day, it always gives me a blessing. God Bless Allison

You did nothing wrong here...your brother and his wife must be very insecure? I would call or write them and calmly explain that the nine year old was not invited because you were planning a trip for adults...if it is that upsetting to them you could offer to take the nine year old at their expense, but this doesn't feel right to me... Good luck, Aramat

Connie I am late reading this but...OMG!! Your brother and his wife need a clue!! She is only 9 and no she was not invited. What does the rest of your family think? It seems crazy that they would boycott all family events. Suggest that maybe that could take a family trip if they want too. And possible at the same time. My daughter is 8 and I could never imagine expecting someone to take her to Italy. Plus what a waste, she won't even remember it! Keep us updated! Jen