Yes I did and thanks for responding-you were the only one *****sponded and I was hoping to hear from some more people.  Its unfortunate for me that the bariatric surgery place that my husband is attending doesn't offer spousal support classes to inform us on what to expect-I did attend some classes when he was preparing for lapband and very informative-but everyone there is either post surgery as a speaker or pre surgery.  I didn't want to ask questions and bum out potential patients.  I want to hear from spouses who spouse is post op.  Even though he is physically, mentally and emotionally going through this, I also will be going through this mentally and emotionally.  I am all about helping him through this, but I don't know what to expect this time.  He went into the lapband surgery knowing that it could be removed-this surgery is different. 

My husband has decided to have Gastric By-Pass Surgery.  He had the Lap Band Surgery about 2 yrs ago,  He lost more weight pre surgery than he did post surgery.  He probably gained 10 out of 20 lbs back that he lost pre surgery, and hasn't lost any weight since the lap band surgery.  He claims the Lap Band didn't work for him,but he also didn't follow the guidelines suggested.  If he doesn't do what he is supposed to do (like cut his food small or chew good) he throws up (and it hurts me to here this).  I was not thrilled about the lap-band surgery, but as a wife that loves her husband, I would do anything to help him, but I can't change him!!  I  need to reach out to wives whose husband's have had this life changing surgery, especially ones who have been with their husband's at least one year post surgery.  I want to support my husband and even conform to eating what he has to eat.  We've been married over 30 yrs and I know his habits.  Please help me to understand as a spouse, what to expect.  I am a very supportive wife, but he has a mind of his  own.  PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND!!

Thank you for your response. I think the website just seemed to have articles about other things and I didn't have the time to sort through all of it and there was a LOT to sort through. But, again, thanks.

“You can't seem to help yourself when you see food. Here's how to use that to your advantage.”

Out of sight out of mind may be the key for some when it comes to high calorie foods. Banning bags of chips and the cookie jar from the kitchen counter is a good idea, better yet to keep them out of the house completely, or at least make them hard to reach without effort. This is a good trick even for those who might not always think about their health or weight...like kids and husbands. The key is definitely to put healthy eats in plain sight. Have a fruit bowl on the counter to remind you that you have apples and bananas for a quick snack. When you open the fridge, have bags of veggies in full view. Baby carrots are so convenient and kids will eat them as quickly as chips if they're readily available when hunger calls.

I am also curious about this b/c have never heard of it in all the research i have done. I could not find an explanation of what it is on the link you provided. but, appreciate your efforts. My rny is scheduled in 18 days but i guess if my surgeon hasn't mentioned it, I guess I can assume he doesn't do it. But, thanks for you help.